when she said she was pregnant. he wanted her too get an abortion,but she didn't the guy became distant and she hasn't heard from him since.The guy knew her due date was for Dec.06,but she had the baby before ,should she call him and tell the father that she had the baby early?
2006-12-04 02:03:11 · 8 answers · asked by phillygirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
YES. He may be acting like a child, but she needs to take the high road and tell him. It may seem unfair, but she needs to make decisions for the baby's best interest and not base them on her personal feelings. Staying in contact with the father, even if he's a jerk, is necessary. Sorry.
2006-12-04 02:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Milana P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she should call him and tell him. Then she should go to court tomorrow and file for child support. If this guy wants to walk away, then she should let him. She can't force him to stay with her or to be involved in the kids life. He told her he didn't want a child and she went ahead and the baby anyways. She knows or should have known that she would be raising this baby by herself but; she can make him pay child support. Get her to do that NOW!!! He may come around over time and decide that he wants to get to know his child and she should let him regardless of how she feels about him, thats his kid. If the father is no threat to the well being of the child, she should let her see him. Get the child support overwith, worry about the other stuff later. In the meantime, she needs to love and care for that little baby. Welcome to the world little one!!!!
2006-12-04 02:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answer is aa mixture of the ones you have received already. Yes, I think that she should tell him that the baby was born. How would be up to her whether through phone, letter,or e-mail, or whatever. Then she should give him the chance to decide what he wants, he does have a choice. If he decides to walk away and offer no support, she needs to seek proper support for her CHILD, not for her. The sad thing is he made it known that he did not want to have a child with her. The man should have choices just as a woman does. If she decides to have the child she should be ready to support the child. If you don't know the viewpoints of the person you are SLEEPING with you shouldn't be sleeping with them. Every person should know whether or not their partner is ready for children, what would happen if they became pregnant, and do they believe in abortion.
2006-12-04 02:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he made his position pretty clear & she knew that if she had the baby . . . she would be doing life as a single parent. I really wish girls would stop being stupid about birth control . . . if they are going to 'dance' like an adult they should at least care enough about kids NOT to have them until they are married.
As for your friend now . . . list the father on the birth certificate but expect a challenge on parentage. He will probably insist on a DNA test and the courts will assess child support if the test determines he is the father.
Although your friend has learned the hard way, maybe everyone else she knows will at least learn . . .
Hopefully they will NOT have kids (use birth control) until they are married and have their financial house in order.
2006-12-04 02:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think serving him with a court oder for child support is a better way to announce the arrival of the baby he made and doesnt want a part of.
2006-12-04 02:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree, a court ordered child support "birth" announcement. Let's face the facts here. Had he been interested in the child's arrival, he would have made sure he was in touch with her all along.
2006-12-04 02:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, She should go and tell him that she had a baby. She should give him one more chance to be in that babies life. If he does not want to be in the babies life. she needs to go to the court system and file for child support and full custody.
2006-12-04 02:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by sexy*kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..she should. She should also contact a lawyer because he has to help with child support.
2006-12-04 02:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋