we r so in love but they want him to take an indian wife. we have made vows never to leave each other. this way we will b forced to commit adultery. pls advise me. wat can we do, we cant live without each other. plssss help
2006-12-04 02:01:56 · 12 answers · asked by damain 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Find a minister who will marry you,or make your vows directly to God.God understand you predicament,what God has brought together let no man separate.You need Gods blessings no one Else's.I ask God in prayer to bless your lives together,in Jesus name.You could go to a justice of the peace if you are in a country who has them.Make your covenant between God you,and your mate for life.
2006-12-04 02:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are both in a position to marry whomever you choose (you are not already married, etc.) then you have the option of going against your parent's wishes. You just have to choose between options: your own love and faithfulness to each other, or your parents' blessing.
NOBODY "forces" you into adultery. That is a choice you must make on your own. If you both disagree with your parents, and you strongly believe you can make this marriage work, then marry. Marriage is not a sin, even if your parents disagree with it.
You are both adults, right? Stand up and tell the parents what
you have decided between the two of you. You must live with this decision for the rest of your lives!
THEY DON'T!
2006-12-04 02:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While his parents may be able to prevent you from marrying (at least for a time until he can afford to marry without their blessings) they are NOR forcing you into adultery. If you decide to committ adultery, that is your choice, not theirs.
Would be better to live apart, without sex, while you continue to work at winning them over, and he works at getting to the point where he can properly support you. (Why would you want to marry him now if he can not support you yet?) If you are truely in love, you can wait and do it right. The relationship will be better for having waited and do things right.
In the meantime, there better be more to your relationship to keep you together than just sex. If not, the relationship will not last even if you did marry. So take the time to build a relationship, rather than just to screw each other.
No one can force you into adultery except yourselves.
2006-12-04 02:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, adultery is when one of you is already married and if it is the case it is not a good thing, being African or not, if you are talking about fornication it is not encouraging either; however, if you love each other you should go for it, and marry the Indian or vice versa than to live in sin.
2006-12-04 02:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by jsmrock214 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you mean he is married. . . .you said adultery, adultery is when you have sex with a person who is already married. if this is not the case and you fiance is single then i say if he is not man enough to stand up to his family and say that you are going to be his wife then you really need to think about if you want this kind of a man for a husband. i am in an interracial relationship i am african-american and my husband is italian-american and he would never not stand up for me even to his family (the rest of his family loved me except his dad, he's dead now), he told his father that i am going to be his wife like it or not. if your fiance` can't do this for you then you really need to have long talk about where this relationship is going because it sounds like you are about to become the mistress instead of the wife.
2006-12-04 02:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Love United 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't commit adultery unless one of you is married to another.You can commit fornication only if you give in to lustful desires.You can dishonor your parents if it is because you or him are to young to marry.If your old enough and feel like your love for one another is of God, GET MARRIED AND GOD BLESS YOU BOTH.And DAMAIN, I hope your African and not a male.
2006-12-04 02:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is forced into adultery. You are a liar. You aare an adulterer by choice.
If you are of age then get married. You dont need your parents consent unless you are into traditions of some sort.
Sounds like you are more in lust with each other than love anyway.
2006-12-04 02:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by TROLL BOY 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get married by a judge, don't commit adultery.
2006-12-04 03:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only adultery if one or both of you are married to someone else. It is premarital sex or fornication if neither of you are married. Either way, if the two of you love each other it shouldn't be up to others if you marry or not.
2006-12-04 02:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you come together you are married in the eyes of God anyway. So just tell them how it's going to be and that will allow you to live for God. Honoring you parents doesn't means obeying them in all things it's seeing to their care physically, emotionally, and spiritually... Jim
2006-12-04 02:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋