I have been dating this one guy for over a year now, but lately it has been hard to want to be with him. He has lost respect for me, purposely tries to make me feel guilty and doesn't try to see me as much anymore. I would like to move because I am just not happy, but don't know how. I do not let him take control too, I always tell him what I do not like and at times avoid his calls. However, I have not completely moved-on simply because I love him or more like loved him when he was nice. Any suggestions?
2006-12-04 01:53:30 · 7 answers · asked by sendwad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to come to reality with yourself, even though it's very hard. I have felt like you have, " I love you, but I am not in love with you." Obviously, you have lost the general passion in the relationship because you no longer want to be with him.
If he has no respect for you, then why are you with him? Clearly, you can find better!
If you have come to the point of avoiding his calls, then my doll, you need to avoid him completely. This is not healthy nor fair to you.
You will not just wake up tomorrow and be over him. You'll need support from your friends and family. Remember, you will find someone else. Destiny and Inertia are not the only forces that surround love. If they were, there would be only one woman for every man, and only one man for every women. There are not, there are at least 310 million people in the US, and billions others in the world. You will find your prince charming.
It will not be easy, even if you think it is now. You will have freedom and be single (which is nice after a relationship.) Remember, friends and family are the best solution to your answer.
Good Luck! And get away from the looser!
2006-12-04 02:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by TheJman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the problem - forcing youself to move on but is actually in denial about the whole thing. you should embrace and accept your current feelings for him and asked yourself what you want out of this relationship. What i find useful? Go out with as many guys and see how well some of them will treat you. i know you will be thinking that's because they are not in relationship with you but hey this guy that you have not gotten over has only been with you for a year...what kind of record is that? And when he knows that you are dating, then it's time for him to clean up his act and not take you for granted. MEN!
2006-12-04 10:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...
If you are not happy then why stay? Stop waisting your time; there are guys out there that will treat you the way you've always dreamed of...
Let him go. The holidays will be tough to spend alone... But the best way to get over him is to start dating and focus your attention on someone/something else...
Good luck!!!
2006-12-04 09:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that the person he is becoming is not what you're looking for. Once you've realized that the time you spent with him in the past was special, but OVER now, then you'll be able to move on with the next phase of your life!
2006-12-04 09:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you're ready to move on, you'll stay stuck right where you are. Only you can make the decision that you're tired of the current situation. Hope you decide to make your move sooner, rather than later. Right now, you're wasting your time on him.
2006-12-04 09:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to move on, it takes even a year depending on how you deal with it. divert your attention to anything that can make you happy like being with your friends, doing things that you like.. but usually its easier to move on when you find someone else that is better than him..
2006-12-04 10:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by les 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would dump his sorry a**. if he has no respect for u than, he must not respect u're feelings. why r u with him? have some respect for u're self dump him.
2006-12-04 10:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by psychopathic bi*ch. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋