What are the negative points of the debate title- "Accepting an Arranged Marriage"
2006-12-04 01:49:43 · 18 answers · asked by ng_resa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
such as:
You will feel uncomfortable marrying a total stranger.
You might lose your freedom forever.
You might be mistreated.
2006-12-04 02:31:09 · update #1
Can anybody give me negative answers in point form?
2006-12-04 11:55:32 · update #2
Only for debate, I am a blind supporter of arranged marriage !!!
1. u dont know the person with whom u are expected to live the life.
2. ur parents and /or gurdian may be in confusion about ur personality to take a good match[they are not expert on the subject of analysing personalities]
3. the above mentioned persons may not be serious about matching the couple, simply as they dont think it is important.
4. if u are a girl, ur marriage is a burden over the parents and they may wish to be free as soon as possible.
5 if u are boy dowry may effect the decision.
6. the dominant person in ur family may guide the selection by by his ego or other personality disorders.
7. there may be some short of social pressure like 'good family' or 'given my words' which may hamper the quality of match making.
8. last but not the least is the fact that the persons deciding for the partners may pass to there havenly abode before u know the shortcomings of ur marriage and then there won't be any one to help with the ''arrangements''!!
2006-12-04 02:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by gurkanji 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Donot know that particular her or his activities,taste,hobbies and thinkings 4 arranged marriage. U will spend a lot of times to understand their feelings and also v r sacrifice ur feelings,interest and thinkings. Now a days v saw a lot of family prob by newspapers so some arranged marriage only going well .
2006-12-04 20:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by ShreeNathan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In an arranged marriage, the couple does know each other. They are usually friends from childhood who have known all along that their marriage has been arranged...they most definitely aren't marrying a total stranger.
2006-12-04 10:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know the person and what you have to adjust to.
You have to trust your parent/ relatives who arrange the marriage.
You have not had a chance to sit down and discuss issues or expecations with your potential spouse.
Its basically like walking into the unknown for the rest of your life.
2006-12-04 09:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arranged marriage is complete nonsense ... it can go either way.. he may be good or bad .. arranged marriage is marrying whole family not one guy ... u need to keep all happy whether u like it or not
arranged marriage starts where love marriage ends .. in love marriage sex is the last thing .. it is understanding and respect but arranged marriage is all abt sexually attracted and not to mention wat else can u know in just one look
it is similar to buying a guy in market see how she looks how much healthy she is .. know her pedigree and then nothing is left to deceide how much milk her mom gave ... and keep milking the girl life long .. complete set up for market
parents are nothing less but brokers ... have their own personal needs to take care one buy and another sells dowry .haaa
family honour .. never is a question .. u will see all arranged marriages are forced till end .. may be atleast till child birth then .. girls struggles life long
she will never know her man for life time .. he gets wat he wants every nite .. just has to show off to friends believe me .. life is hell
there
good luck
2006-12-04 10:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, negative points are that u get to know the person from the time of your engagement ,u can always get to know them from then on,their interests,family. u have to be very adjusting and compromise a lot.if anything goes wrong u can always blame ur parents who fixed the match.thats the positive point.
2006-12-04 11:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arranged marriage is good for long life of marrige life . only one is nagative is parents preserd for to marry an un like
2006-12-04 21:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it does not work out and you want a divorce, then you have extra guilt from the parents since they arranged it.
2006-12-04 14:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by t24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that nowadays arranged marriage are more like dating because you're allowed to meet the person and hang out with them to see whether you like each other...i accept it...!
2006-12-04 16:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Heera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will do you need to get to know the person first..your parents pick the person but doesn't mean you have to accept the person.. and so you have to pick the person that you like not your parents...
2006-12-04 10:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋