I've seen girls go out w/ men that look like their dads. Some look like their grand-dads. Is it just about the money? Is there any real physical attraction between them. Most older men don't look like George Clooney. Besides, it's still doesn't change the fact he looks like he's in his early 40's. Physical attraction is a part of any romantice relationship (to some degree). How is this reconciled?
2006-12-04 01:45:07 · 34 answers · asked by InvisibleWar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some girls find older guys attractive, also younger guys tend to be really immature
2006-12-04 01:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cate 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In some cases it is just about the money. Older men can give young girls more stuff. This is a very superficial relationship, and the girl is just "playing the field".
However, there are young women who genuinely want older men, and I have two thoughts on this based on my study of man-woman dynamics.
1) This is a woman who has genuine "dad" issues. She may have been abused as a child, or even raped. She is trying to fulfill something in herself related to her dad. So she has literally found a "daddy" to try and resolve it with. You can bet that there will be a lot of sex, and a lot of manipulation in this kind of a relationship, which is nothing more then an expression of her desire for love.
A woman in this situation is unconsciously thinking, "I'm older now. I can have the control!" Because she experienced such deep pain when she was a child from her real (or foster) dad. So here's an older man she can control sexually, so that she feels in power.
A very unhealthy relationship, but it may actually be therapy for this kind of girl, as strange as that sounds. Ulitmately she will need some kind of psychological or coaching support if she is ever to have a real intimate relationship.
2) Many young women are jaded with the "boys" they find, even guys up to age 27. You see we have no rites of passage in this society (except perhaps the military...) so there are 35 year old little boys in mens bodies walking around out there.
Many young women who are mature get totally sick of the dumbass young 20-somethings who are still drinking and trying to get laid.
Guys do this because they are stuck in their teens, and have not had the opportunity to grow up. I realized this myself when I went through my own sexual rite of passage at 25. It was insane... all of a sudden I could no longer hang out with the "overgrown frat boys" I was drinking with before. They just pissed me off.
Instead I found a slightly older woman who was amazed at how mature I was for my age, and we are now engaged.
So essentially many women beleive that the older a guy is, the more mature he is. WRONG! There are very mature 23 year olds, and very immature 40 year olds. It's just that there tends to be MORE immature 20-somethings, and LESS immature 40-somethings.
Great question!
2006-12-04 02:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jericho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older men have learned a great deal about women and so have a better perspective on their emotions. It's not just about the physical aspects but more about how a woman is treated. Younger men are more sexually motivated and most act like dogs in heat rather than compassionate and understanding friends. This creates a feeling of uncertainty with women who must discern whether the male counterpart is sincere or just aroused. Even if an older man is aroused he would naturally have had more experience in reading a women's sexual tendencies and therefore provide a more pleasurable intimacy.
2006-12-04 01:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greatest attraction for women is someone with power. Woman usually see older men as being more powerful. It goes back to the survival of the fittest in the subconscious. This is why most women love to date bad boys and older men rather than that nice boy down the lane. However like always, this is only one factor of what some women look for in men, there are always exceptions.
2006-12-04 01:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tyson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many girls find older men more interesting and more "on their level." Some girls mature faster than their male counterparts and have a hard time dating men their age (don't feel like they have anything in common). This is very apparent in high school, and girls start out their dating patterns at this time. Younger women seek interesting conversations, experience, and maturity in older men. Believe it or not, it isn't always about money and looks.
2006-12-04 01:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Katie K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not just power and money - though that would be the cynics view... Women appreciate maturity in a partner - men their own age are sometimes just too childish or looking to get different things out of a relationship and so it is little wonder that they find themselves attracted to men who are settled, know which direction they are going and know what they want in a woman.
...Experience also has it's benefits... :)
Lx
2006-12-04 01:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maturity! It's a well documented fact that males mature, emotionally, much slower than females. I believe that's why so many younger women will choose an older man over a younger one. Of course, the money is an added bonus, but not the only reason for the choice.
2006-12-04 01:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often wonder the same thing. I mean could you imagine introducing him to your parents and hes like got more in common with them than you lol. Its just creepy to think of someone that age as being intimate with you. ew. I think its probably either the power or the money or both. A 40-50 year old man can often have a higher rank at work or make a lot more money and power and money are attractive.
2006-12-04 01:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's a easy one those chicks are probably tired of the guys the same age as they are. who would you pick if you where a chick a rich good looking guy in his early 40s that looks 28 or some baggy paints guy with earrings and nose rings all over his face. I'm not saying that's you but you get what I'm saying. I'm 39 Ive dated even married woman of my own age. im not rich. im devorced now and ive been with chicks that where 24. older guys have more experince.and know how to treat a woman. whould you rather date a guy that has it together or some guy that dont know where hes going ?
2006-12-04 01:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by wofford1257 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 14 years older than me. We are perfect together. I never did like guys my age because they were immature and liked to play games. Older guys are more appreciative. The don't mind so much when a girl gets a little chunky, they're just glad they got her at all. Some girls do date guys for the money, you need to stay away from those gold diggers. But there are good girls out there.
2006-12-04 01:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by Becky F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well most women go out with the older guys is because they want to experience "new" things that they haven't before. some just can't find a man their age and so they go for the younger men. some men might like the "older" women. it all depends on the person and what his/hers type is.
2006-12-04 01:48:32 · answer #11 · answered by Michell L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋