I have a three year old son who will be four in February. I have tried helping his speech via flashcards and other fun little games. He doesn't talk much, but rather repeats whatever is said to him or around him. He has a younger brother, who is 1 1/2--I wonder if this could be the reason his development has slowed down. Also, he did not start walking until he was 1 1/2, took spells as an infant in talking but then stopped talking, and now will not use the toilet unless you assure him to poo poo and pee pee in the toilet. What are some things that would help in his development? I've heard little boys are sometimes slower so I haven't brought this up to the pediatrician yet--should I? What are some possibilities as to why he's at a difference pace? Could it be us moving to GA when he was used to his surroundings at 18 months of age? I find it hard to believe he's simply slow because he spells out "thank you", can count to 20, and other things. Anyone with similar experiences?
2006-12-04 01:38:11 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Some kids with learning disorders are very advanced in other areas. What you are talking about could go either way, and I think you need to talk to the Paed. The younger brother and the move may cause this slowing down as a way of acting out, but it should have finished by now and he shoudl have settled into the new regime.Remeber that kids develope in fits and spurts so he may be in a slow period ( as in not going fast).
I know I have given you a definite maybe, but I think there is enough cause for doubt here and while it is probably just the normal variation and random developemental drift you should get it checked for your own peace of mind.
Try playing with sand (wet and dry) to discover texture and the mobility of shapes. It also helps gross motor skills.
Combine playdough with dry rice, sand or nontoxic scented oils to enhance the experience and encourage fine motor development ( which he will need when learning to write)
The flash cards are great. Try building a post box for him to store them in. If he can attemp the word ( you know what his abilities are and how close he should be) then he can post the picture. Try to use photographic style pictures rather than draings. Drawings tend to be idealised and are not always that easy for kids to recognise. When was the last time you saw a 2 storey house with a door on the bottom, a red triangle roof, two windows on the top floor with crosses in them and a chiminey belching out smoke in the summer?
2006-12-04 01:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by kllr.queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned that he is behind (couldn't tell you for sure without properly evaluating him) you should get him evaluated by someone. His Pediatrician should be able to help you out, or sometimes the local school district can do a Dial 3 screening to see where he stands developmentally. If he is talking, and trying to use the potty, he is probably fine, and you have nothing to worry about. He may be a kid who doesn't talk unless he wants to. You did nothing wrong by moving when he was younger, but maybe by having a baby he might have reverted a little because he wasn't the only focus of your attention. Some kids take a couple of steps backwards as their Way of controlling their world. He has control over very little at this young age, but he can talk and cry at will. I doubt that he is slow, if he can count to 20 like you say.
2006-12-04 11:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by sllcone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, boys do tend to develop slower than girls on average, though not always true. Your best bet is to talk to your pediatrician and see what they have to say. My guess is it has to do with the baby brother. Your older son wants to be the baby still so he's doing it in his own way. Nothing wrong with that. What you can try to do is to try teaching both of them at the same time. I do this for my two youngest because otherwise I would be dealing with the same things. My middle baby is very jealous of the youngest so to combat that I work with both of them when I am teaching them things like potty training and speaking. Now it seems like my youngest is farther along in development than my middle child but that's because of the competition between the two. Other than talking with your pediatrician to see what they say, that would be my only other recommendation to you, just teach them together. Your son, chances are, will outgrow this. It is very typical for older siblings to revert back in development due to jealousy issues over a younger sibling. Definitely talk it over with your pediatrician, they can also help to give you other advice how to get your older son to progress in his development. In the meantime, work with the two boys together teaching them things. Good luck.
2006-12-04 10:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by masmalan2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to be talking to his doctor about this. It's true that boys often are a bit more developmentally slow, but some of what you mention is at least cause to get him checked out. Better you find out if there is a learning difficulty NOW so that you can start counteracting it than later when he's in school and falling fast behind. Good Luck!
2006-12-04 09:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES , your story sounds exactly the same as ours ! This is how we helped him . we got told that if he had kids his age and a little older to play with every day he would develop 10 times faster , and he did . The kids he played with could talk ok and he picked up on what they were doing after a week . Try day care and see!
2006-12-04 09:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Van H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you go to pampers.com they send out things every couple of weeks about a child development and the ages..as for your son not talking boys are slowler in all beinging stages,but should start soon enough, as for the potty alot of little boys are slower. so try the pampers online and they may help u out too best of luck to you
2006-12-04 09:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by jejoo3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Found this article:
http://parenting.ivillage.com/tp/tpdevelopment/0,,devtrkr_9rqb,00.html
When your child turns 3, something miraculous happens. He becomes the offspring you've always dreamed about. Because his body is more cooperative and capable, he exudes confidence and generally feels more at ease. Occasionally, he may have setbacks, but for the most part, 3-year-olds are friendly, talkative and downright helpful. Oh, and yes, they want to see and do everything.
Check out your 3-year-old's skills and milestones:
http://parenting.ivillage.com/tp/tpdevelopment/0,,devtrkr_9rqb,00.html
2006-12-04 09:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned I would visit your pediatrician...he/she can assess if your son is developmentally behind or just acting out and will suggest things for you to do about it. Your Dr. really is your best resource :)
2006-12-04 11:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys tend to develop in certain areas at a slower pace. Given the concern you are expressing, please consult your pediatrician.
2006-12-04 09:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋