I started dating this girl, shes really fun to hang out with and I love spending time with her. The problem is she's not very sexually adventerous, we spend hours kissing and cuddleing and touching, but when it comes to sex shes not really into it. She is Indian background so maybe due to culture, or lack of experiance... what can I do? since I do like her but I dont know how we can keep seeing each other if this part of the relationship is lacking.
2006-12-04 01:30:46 · 14 answers · asked by Graham D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you should kiss her and do some foreplays. She might get into sex.
2006-12-04 01:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize I won't get 'best answer' for this, lol because it's not what you're wanting to hear. But I don't think you're old enough/ mature enough to really understand what makes 'good sex'. It's about love, respect and sharing something special. It's not about 'what she is or isn't willing to do'. If you're willing to break up with a girl over this then there isn't an answer that you're going to hear that will work for the long term. Chances are you'll continue down the road of 'good sex = new things all the time' and one day realize that it's everything ~else~ about a relationship that's important. People will disagree and people will scoff - but if the relationship is strong and you're deeply emotionally connected then the sex will be mind boggling. And if you're not ready for that - then move on until you ~are~ ready.
2006-12-04 09:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is be very patient. Women need a lot of security. So this may be the issue. She isn't really sure about how you are going to respond in the future, so instead of giving it up right now, she wants to wait until she's certain that you're going to stick with her. Now, while that doesn't seem unreasonable, you're going to have to take it slowly and build on that. Do whatever she feels comfortable with, and take it up a notch. For example, she might not feel comfortable showing herself to you, so you may want to encourage her by telling her that she looks beautiful and has a nice body. Then, she may not want to engage in intercourse, but at least she'll be willing to try some other stuff. It's all a question of patience my friend. If you are not willing to take the time that is necessary to get her to open up, then I suggest you find yourself someone else.
2006-12-04 09:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Nestor Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with the kissing and cuddling, some people don't get that much. Try not to push the issue, and see if she'll come around. If you are planning a lasting relationship with this person, and you see a future, talk about what may be keeping her from making the progressive step. Communication is the key.
2006-12-04 09:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she's not very experienced .... Could she be a Virgin? If so why are you trying to rush it? Also if sex is the only thing you want out of the relationship why not date a whore?
Have you ever thought she might be going as far as she feels comfortable with .... How do she know you ain't the type of guy who get it and quit it?
A woman is to be cherished for more then the little box between her legs. Start loving the whole woman and not just how she is in bed.
2006-12-04 09:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you'll have to do is talk to her about it. If she cares about you I'm sure she'll want to make you happy. So, in order to do this, you have to tell her what makes you happy.
One thing you might do is just show her or if you think she won't be offended, rent a porn and tell her that's what you like. If she lacks experience you have to show her. Do some research. Show her that you obviously care about her a great deal and want to be able to enjoy this with her.
She might feel insecure about herself maybe that's why she's not enjoying it as much as she could.
The best of luck to you!
2006-12-04 09:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her! if you really like her and she likes to be affectionate, chances are she appreciates communication too. its really healthy to talk to your partner and it makes for much better sex!! just ask her about what she wants to do, then tell her what you want to do, and you can pick what you have in common or just talk about what each of you think would be fun. Its fun to experiment! plus its a lot sexier when you know they know what you want and like rather than playing some guessing game!
2006-12-04 09:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by NeonaStarr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it just sex that you are after? cos if you are then i think you may not get anywhere with her unless you talk to her and try to understand why she is not that into sex...could be culture or personal choice etc...what can you do? Respect her and if sex is what you want from your gf, then maybe she is not the one that you should be seeing right now.
2006-12-04 09:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her sites through her e-mail or get some of the sex board games they make things fun
2006-12-04 09:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bout u get some drinks and try. or try to turn her on more. i had an indian gf b4 n at first she was like that but soon we started getting more sexual so just wait a lil
2006-12-04 09:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by mKsTpN0y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur last sentence is giving u out , it looks like u r only into this for a purpose and that is sex . u wont see her if she dosent open up to u . change ur attitude dude , girls sense these things .
2006-12-04 09:36:19 · answer #11 · answered by sas35353535 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋