my guy gets close then pulls away- what do i do-play it cool? Mirror him?

Answer 1

Don't mirror him. It's what I would have done before but now I can officially tell you it just causes more problems, confusion and communication issues. Just ask him what's wrong. If he continues to act this way for no reason, find another guy, he may be trying to tell you something without actually having to say it.

Answer 2

That is exactly what my bf did. These type of guys have been hurt in the past and they are scared. Their hearts want to move forward in high gear, but their minds are saying no way remember what happened with the last girl u thought was so great..........she left u and broke your heart. This is what I said to my bf.........I have 2 choices and can leave and move on to someone who is not scared of comittment or I can take it slow with u and give u time to realize how much I care for u and I am not going to hurt u. I choose to do the second because I would rather take it slow than lose u. There is no pressure and no rush, I am here for u, by your side and will take it as slow as u wish........and when u are ready to move forward I will be here. Well less than a week later he was more loving and more committed than any man I have ever dated. As soon as he knew the pressure was off it showed him I am not a needy person that is going to cling to him and ask him for more than he wanted to give at the time. When we did move forward I knew that that was what he wanted and that he was ready for it and it's a great relationship now. Good luck :-)

Answer 3

Always play it cool. Don't ever allow someone else to control your actions. You don't need to mirror him. Represent yourself girl.

Answer 4

It sounds like he has been hurt in the past and is scare when someone gets close so be patient with him and go from there