I luv my GF too much, but everytime She speaks OR do something tht teribbly hurts me mentally. This have had happened again & again & again. I have talked with her but she just dont change her ways. I dont know what to do - i really feel like leaving her because of this, but then i think i love her and so i stop.
Please tell what to do ? I mean how to overcome this probelm and YES she wont change.
Just tellme a way or something, to live with the problem happily....
2006-12-04 01:08:24 · 13 answers · asked by Jack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know any drugs that would allow you to live with this situation happily.
Love is not supposed to make you feel bad. That instinct you had about leaving her? Follow it. Good luck.
2006-12-04 01:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are either seriously insecure or incompatible with your girlfriend.
What can she be saying that is upsetting you so much? Is this a jealousy issue? If she is mentioning guys names in front of you in an innocent enough way "oh I was chatting to Mike and David the other day", and you jump all over her, then you are being selfish and inconsiderate. If she is saying "Wow. That guy is hot. I want to sleep with him!", then obviously, she has a problem.
So many people come on here using the words 'i love them... BUT'. If you truly loved someone, then you are in love with their personality. Saying that you love someone who has a lame personality and treats you like garbage is telling the world that you're desperate and are only in the relationship because you want someone to tell you how much they love you.
For all we know on here, your girlfriend might be the sweetest, most loyal girl in the world and you might be the green-eyed monster.
From the sounds of it, there's probably wrong on both sides. Being in a relationship where every word that comes out of your mouth is judged is like torture. Keep it up and she'll probably end up hating you and rightfully so.
Is she cheating on you- actually physically cheating on you and you have proof- not simply mentioning a guy's name in front of you? Is she a bad person? Is she nasty to you?
If no to all the above, then you need to get your head straight.
2006-12-04 09:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAN UP!!! Reach your hand down your pants and grab your balls. If you've got em use em damit. Walk right up do her and say "B*tch you better stop your sh*t or I am gonna f*ck you up." Whatever it is she is doing I can pretty much guarantee you she will stop. You have to man up these days dude. With all this womens impowerment and feminist garbage flying around. "GIRL POWER" "ITS 50/50" BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! This is a mans world and there is nothing any woman or group of women that can do anything about it. Step up and be a man. Thats the worst thing any guy can do is let a WOMAN walk on you. Show her who is boss.
EDIT: I didn't see all of these other garbage answers until I posted mine. You see what I am talking about. "Just make yourself happy" "Were you coddled too much" WAAA WAAA.. What a bunch of Bullsh*t. Damnit where are the balls in this country going. I am 23 years old and even I know you need to MAN UP dude.
2006-12-04 09:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,choose what makes you happy in life,whether its friends,people or lovers.
Forgive and forget and leave behind who give you grief and sorrow and move ahead.
Some can't change and some will never change,if you think you have given her oppotunities to understand and fix on issues and feel that you aren't happy about it.
Then why drown in a pool of grief and hurts,leave and move on.
Start to do and be with what makes you happy.
2006-12-04 09:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by kahuna_khazana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you are not being overly sensitive to her or something ? i used to have a b/f that said this to me all the time . He used to say why are you talking to me like that ? and to tell you the truth i think that he was very babied at home and was overly sensitive or his mother and she still does coddled all of them all of her children I mean . when you are coddled at home by your parents if people dont talk to you a certain way you become upset with them because you feel like they are talking to you very badly when really they dont mean anything by it .I think that maybe you were coddled at home and your parents did this to you . That is why you are having a problem with your g/f . My ex b/f had a problem at work too cause he felt ppl did not talk to him just right which I felt like he was being a baby . Maybe she feel this way too. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-04 09:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wont change and shes making you unhappy the only way darling is to let her go, no on i mean NO ONE should make you feel less then you are. if she wont change her ways for you babe then she aint the one, i know its never easy to hear especially when you love someone so so much its never easy ot hear but it sounds like your worth 100 times more then she is, if shes not willing to change then dont continue suffering!
Remember always look after number one and thats yourself, if she loves you as much as she says she does she will see the error in her ways and soon come running back!!
Good luck sweetie! x x x
2006-12-04 09:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Chel1525 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear friend, you are a sensitive person who deserves respect.. she probably grew up in a family where her attitude was cultivated and nourished.. you can get help for yourself..you can learn how to be a stronger person. and that is where your issue lies.. learn to be strong. I don't mean loud, ugly cussing strong. learn to say that is enough. and don't give her what she wants. she wants you to be strong. so be strong in a good way. there is a movie called enough with jennifer lopez. watch it by yourself or among friends who support you.you need help to learn how to be strong and to value yourself. so do it. and yes you need to leave her now. she isn't as important to you as you are important to you. so don't stay in an abusive relationship. go to a health club in your new spare time and get healthy. change our diet and educate ourself for the futuer. and save your money as much as you can.. in the future you will be healthy, have a good career and have ivestments that will make you a chick magnet.. but you willhave to work for that goal.
2006-12-04 09:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by spotlite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shoud seriously break up with her because if she is hurting u like that than you shouldnt have to deal with it. tell her how u feel and MAYBE she will change. u cant just say that someone wont change but if she doesnt change after u tell her how u feel break up and find someone new. go on myspace or something
2006-12-04 09:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by mKsTpN0y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... how much time did you give her to change?
If it's been a while and she's not doing anything to fix her ways, then I guess it's not meant to be.
Don't worry. If it doesn't work out, you've done all you could. God has a plan for you and everything will be alright.
2006-12-04 09:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a person that is making you feel bad to make herself feel better, run don't walk, away from this relationship.
2006-12-04 09:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by AMC615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋