Ive been dating thie girl for two months. I like her and always let her know how strong my feelings are for her. I found out not too long ago that she is sexually adventurous because she told me she slept with two guys at the same time. It hurt me at first but now im over it. Shes been telling me that she didnt feel right about having sex with me yet and that she wanted to wait. Last night she made it clear that she still wasnt ready but towards the end of the night we ended up doing it anyway. We were about hafl way through and she said she wanted to stop so we did. It was kind of disasterous and now im feeling kind of............... im not really sure what im feeling.. angry? sad? embarrassed? confused? my feelings are mixed. what should i do? it doesnt feel like this should have happened. shes did say before she left that its not the big of deal.. but idk
2006-12-04 01:05:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Save the sex till marriage... or you'll keep feeling this way...
2006-12-04 01:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well first of all, she has not been going out with you for too long and probably not warmed up with you yet. She didn't want to do it with you yet but still, a night together alone may sometimes trigger some lust that are just pure impulsive. She probably did not think through of what she's doing before she did it. She told you to stop because she got hold of herself in the middle of it and started to regret not getting warmed up with you yet. Give her time, and eventually you two will finally have an uninterrupted, wonderful sex.
2006-12-04 01:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by pattycatty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you are the guy of here dream but she dose not wont to ruin you. she my have a wild side and she my just wont to keep doing it until she is ready for you. when i started dating my wife she was a big club girl and she had 8 -10 boyfriend and she was just learning about what she wonted from a guy. when she meet me her and i where just friend for over 3 years and then one day she found out that i was dating and she came back into my life and a love not as a friend. so if i where you just be there for her and let her make up her mind and in the long run you will be the winner.. good luck
2006-12-04 01:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she is ******* with you. First, don't worry, sometimes someone really isn't that attracted to you to begin with. I slept with a girl once and after I banged her for an hour straight and made her come a couple of times, she decided she didn't want to see me again. It wasn't because I was ugly or anything, but simply because the girl was ****** nuts. I learnt that afterwards when we stopped seeing each other. After some time, she called me up to aske me for money, so as you can imagine I told her to bug off. Relax man. You can always find another girl. **** it. There are more girls than guys in the world nowadays.
2006-12-04 01:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by Nestor Q 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you!!!! You did the right thing by stopping. I think she may really care for you and trying to see what your intentions are toward her. There may be other issues with her as well. It may not have been consented with the two guys. You may want to have a real heart to heart with her and make sure the reputation that she has..is not rumored. Good Luck...you sound like a real gentleman.
2006-12-04 01:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just b/c she had it with two guys doesnt mean she is necessarily a ho.
this is how girls function:
we talk about how we want to meet a "nice guy" but we continually hook up w/losers who are hot but just want sex, b/c its a fact that women have more of a sex drive and they want sex more than men, so they'll pick men who give it to them.
not to mention many women have low self esteem and will settle for those losers b/c sex gives them a rush of good feelings mistaken for good self esteem.
however these women will inevitably run into nice guys who really like them, and perhaps change into that nice girl. it might take time. but i think it could happen. if your heart says no way about this girl and her morals (or lack of?) then leave her alone.
there are lots of nice girls out there who want a nice guy and actuallly dont sleep around. so if youre not seeing the change in this one dont waste your time (or a clean bill of health HINT STDS)
2006-12-04 01:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by StinkyDec19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a b.... to me. One minute she tells you she has done a threesome, then she tells you she doesn't want sex. Then she tells you that she wants sex, then she tells you to stop half way through.
Honestly, it sounds like she has some serious issues. It's up to you to decide if you really want to deal with the mind games or simply move on to someone who is better adjusted.
2006-12-04 01:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by ZCT 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think somthing up figure whats going on if she did a three way sounds like she dont mind being a freak maybe you need to bring somone in
2006-12-04 01:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some issues to work out give it time. If you are met to be together you will.. Just give it time. and shop around... You might find someone else your meant to be with.
2006-12-04 01:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mackie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm i think you should wait longer youl both know when the time is right! Good Luck
2006-12-04 01:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ashe Corven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is no big deal --- just keep seeing her --- you are interested in her not the sex right??
she will see that and it could make the relationship better
2006-12-04 01:12:09 · answer #11 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋