Would you rather be (a) lonely and be in a friends with benefits relationship or (b) lonely, no friends wtih benefits and looking for a long term relationship?
Is it possible to be in a FWB relationship and feel 100% valued? Can a FWB relationship distract you from creating your own longer term ones?
2006-12-04 01:02:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
B) I wouldn't want to waste my time with in a FWB relationship (which I wouldn't even call it that). Someone always gets hurt.
As far as value is concerned, I don't think someone could feel 100% vauled. What if you see that person with someone else? You have no claim on them, so they are free to do whatever they please. You are only a piece.
I think it would be a huge distraction, hence my answer to the first question.
2006-12-04 01:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B.
That way I won't get hurt with just being "friends" and feeling used.
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I found this:
Risky Business?
"There are way too many risks involved when you are FWB," says Sondra, 17. "Even if you try not to let your feelings get in the way of having a good time, it's likely that you are going to end up getting attached. When you fool around with someone, any feelings you have for the other person get more intense. And there had to be something there if you wanted to hook up in the first place, right?"
And then there's the jealousy factor. What happens if you really want your FWB to be your girlfriend or boyfriend, but they don't feel the same and find someone else? Ouch! So what's the bottom line? If you have feelings for your hookup buddy, it's best to communicate those before you start a physical relationship. Or, if you find yourself developing feelings for her or him once you start hooking up, take a step back and make those feelings known. Otherwise, you may be headed for heartbreak!
Friendship Fallout
Losing that friend is another potential risk of being FWB. "Once you start hooking up with a friend, you are in this weird limbo of not being just friends anymore, but also not being together," explains Mollie. "It's kind of hard to go back to normal if you hooked up." Before you get physical, ask yourself if hooking up is worth the risk of ruining your friendship.
How Do You Really Feel?
Being friends with benefits may seem like an easy way to have some fun, but all relationships have emotional and physical risks, even when you try to keep things casual. Before you decide to be FWB, here are some things to think about:
- Do I have feelings for this person that will make this situation more confusing?
- Am I prepared to deal with a change in our friendship, or losing the friendship altogether?
http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2004/if-20040803p309-friend.php
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2006-12-04 01:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have to say "b".. Why do something that will not really ever go anywhere.. But once you get that long term relationship you will have to cutt off all ties to the FWB.... That could creat one hell of a problem, cause the temptation will be there.. Good Luck!
2006-12-04 01:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. You're not lonely if you have a FwB. You're alone, yes, but not lonely. You act as if self-worth comes from having a relationship. It doesn't. If anything, self-worth comes from total independence from romance. As for the long-term-creation issue, some of us don't even want a long-term relationship. Namely, me.
2006-12-04 03:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes i think a long term relationship is a pain in the ***. i've had friends with benefits that lasted longer than any of the relationships i've ever been with and the good thing is, even though they he longer has benefits i'm still really good friends with him. which is more than i can say about most of my exes.
2006-12-04 01:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lonely and no friends an benefits and looking for a long term relationship
2006-12-04 01:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by cindy r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would choose A! Long term relationships have lots of problems and there are tons of ways to make yourself feel valued.
2006-12-04 01:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just like being what i am. your only lonely if you let your self be. and its up to you when you want to have a relationship with anyone. A&B both have there benefits. but I choose none. the right one will come if it was mean't to be. I am content for who I have in my life. and that is what really counts.
2006-12-04 01:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choice A, all the way!
Why are you assuming that everyone wants a long-term relationship? I love being single, I just like sex.
2006-12-04 01:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm honestly starting to wonder if I would be better off with just money, since it seems I may never have the love of a good woman. But that is just my opinion.
2006-12-04 01:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋