i asked this guy who i really like if he wanted to meet up for a drink, he said yeah, give me a call the next time your in town.
i have done this and we have met up a few times. i have only kissed him despite staying over his place a few times and him wanting to take things further sexually. i think i have been giving him the wrong signals here but i do like him and want to make sure that he isnt after one thing!
he still wants to see me but again its, give me a call when you next in town and ill meet up with you.
is he just too shy to ask me out?
if he was just after sex wouldnt he have given up by now?
i have known of this guy a while. i met him through my ex. hes not a friend of my ex though and my ex has moved away.
he always pays me compliments and wants to be around me when we are together. he says that im a nice girl etc etc....
he is 29 and single.
2006-12-04 00:59:39 · 10 answers · asked by Special Little Girl xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
drop him.. sounds like you made him think there was a sexual thing you both wanted. besides if a guy couldnt ask me out after all that then hes not worth having me.
2006-12-04 01:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want from this guy? he asked you out already by telling you to let him know next time your in town.
Seems like your sending him mixed signals by staying at his house and kissing him, but not wanting to take it further. What's he supposed to think?
You seem to be playing the same game that many girls looking for attention play, making him think you like him and then pulling away. I'm surprised he has even stuck around this long since I would have dumped you and moved on long ago. If you really like him stop pulling away, go with your feelings and call him next time your in town. If you don't want to give him the wrong idea about sex then DON'T stay at his house.. GO home!! stop leading him on.
2006-12-04 01:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Graham D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was jus after sex no he wouldnt have given up by know, he'll probably keep tryin. if he is too shy to ask u out why dont u ask him out and tell him how u feel and tell him what your're lookin for as far as a relationship, u know? slip that into conversation and if he still is interested after u explain what u want from him then he is not after sex but he still could be, u never know. so if you two do become a couple try holdin out on the sex for at least six months and see how long he stays. thats what i do. when i meet a guy, i explain to them my six month rule, which is no sexual intercourse until we have been with each other for 6 months or more. this gives me and the guy a chance to get to no each other better and get closer, u know? so maybe u should try this, best of luck
2006-12-04 01:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am like him in a way.. so I can tell you maybe he comes from a christian / high morals background and sex makes him have guilty feelings.. so try to be with him in a variety of settings like to a orchestra concert, or a movie or just dinner in, and talk. don't make out real hard just hug him and kiss his cheek and hold his hand.let him take the lead when he is ready but don't leave him guessing.maybe he wants you for more than a sex partner.. ever thought of that? and read a book about the 5 love languages. find his love language /s and communicate to him there
2006-12-04 01:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by spotlite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think he is too shy to ask you out. I think its sensible of you not to have slept with him yet. He doesn't seem to have very much invested in this relationship. He needs to make an effort to see you and to hold up his end of things rather than just sitting around waiting for you to call and hoping that you will have sex with him.
I suggest that you put the ball in his court: Tell him that you would like it if he took you out for the day or out for a fancy meal.
This is not a way for him to get into your knickers, but is a way of asking him to contribute to the relationship. The trick is, he's got to arrange things and then call you and invite you. If he isn't willing/able to do this much, he doesn't really have much to offer you.
Best of luck.
2006-12-04 02:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by SmartBlonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him wanting sex after just a few meetings just says alot about what he wants. Like it's been said many times over - if he loves you, he wouldn't pressure you to take things further.
Beware of guys who always compliment you to make you feel good about yourself. Girls are always easily taken advantage of when they're "high" with compliments paid to them. If he's serious about you, he'd be more objective about what he says.
2006-12-04 01:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by seraphea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like the shy type, take it slow (push him a bit though!!) Good things come to those who wait !!! Abit lol
2006-12-04 01:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so. Maybe he just doesnt want a relationship
Why not ask him directly, don't beat around the bush.
Good Luck
2006-12-04 01:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by jst4di 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM OUT! i wouldt take things too fast either way he will respect you more for making him wait! give in quickly and he will think your easy
2006-12-04 01:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ashe Corven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things slow he might of had a bad experiance in the past
2006-12-04 01:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋