I gave my children up for adoption a few years ago, how can I get them back?

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but I don't think that is possible. If the adoptive parents have full custody now, there is nothing you can do. The only thing you could probably fight for is visitation rights, maybe a weekend a year or an hour a week, a judge may give you that. I read an article in the paper the other week about a similar situation like that. The birth mother was given visitation rights and everyone seemed to get along and enjoyed the time together. I'd get a lawyer. Good luck!

Answer 2

You can't. Even if you could you don't. It is wrong and makes you an awful person if you try to take children away you didn't want to a family who did want them. It is natural to have guilt for giving up your children but; what is done is done. When we make a choice we need to be sure we are able to suffer the consequences that come along with that decision. I am sure it is hard but; don't destroy other people's lives because you regret what you did. The kids are better off where they are than with you. If you want kids, have another one, if you can't have another one, adopt. If you can't adopt then live with it.

Answer 3

There is no way you can get them back. There are procedures and paperwork an adoption agency has you sign. I think the time limit on changing your mind is 30 days. In your case it's been a few years. There's no way, I'm sorry. There might be someone helpful enough to help you find out if they're in good homes and if they're happy. But the only way for you to know is go there and see :) GL

Answer 4

Children aren't puppies. You made the decision to give them away. Probably because you weren't in a position to take care of them properly, and wanted them to have a better life. Well, now they have those better lives. You can't legally reclaim them.

Your best bet is to stay in touch with the agency that did the adoptions, and to keep a file open with them saying that if any of your kids come looking for you, you can be reached at such and such an address and phone number.

And then you wait for one of your kids to make the first move. It probably won't happen any time before they are 16 years old, so don't pin your hopes on hearing from them soon.

In the meantime, you need to go on with your life. Make something of yourself, so that when your kids DO get in touch with you, they want to STAY in touch, because you're some interesting person. A bitter and needy biological Mom will only scare those kids away again.

Answer 5

I believe in the US you have run out time as far as the statue of limitations goes. You only have 6mths, here. On the other hand why would you do this to them. They don't know you, they know two completely separate people as mommy and daddy and you can screw up their develpment by trying to rip them from the security that they call home. I hate to say it but you are being selfish, this is not about you its about whats in the best interest of the children all they know is that you are taking them from their mommy and daddy, they don't see you as mommy and daddy and quit frankly your not. You may have given birth to them and carried them inside you but that does not make you mommy it makes you the host in which they came into the world. My advice to you is to get counseling and come to grips with your decision and not disrupt those children's lives because of what YOU want and not whats best for them. You made this decision to give them up for adoption now stick with it. I understand that you may be attached to them emotionally, however, it is not about you it is about those children, you waited years, . . . . years not like 6mths when they won't remember this, at this point you can damage them, scar them for life is that what you want? If you don't care then you are really more selfish than I think you are.

Answer 6

You can't get them back. But you can talk to the adoption agency who placed your kids with their new family to see if you can be apart of their lives (depending on whether CPS took them or you gave them up freely). My grandmother adopted two boys and their mother lost all her rights to them but now the adopted mother lets the boys go to their real mother's house quite often. If depends on the family and whether or not they would want you in their children lives.

Answer 7

If you love your kids enough to want them back, remember something.....they have lived with the people who adopted them for sometime now. They have a life and parents and it would be really hard on them if you took them away from that. Do you really want to even attempt hurting them in that way??

If you know who adopted them, ask them if they would be willing to let you be a part of the kids lives. You would still know them and they would know you, but it wouldn't totally disrupt their live or cause them any emotional harm...

Answer 8

You can't.

When you gave them up for adoption, you made a legal decision and your parental rights were legally removed from you. Those rights now belong to the people who legally adopted your children.

I doubt very much if your children would want to come back to you anyway - you haven't really been their parent, their adoptive parent has brought them up, loved them, cared for them and done everything a parent should.

Answer 9

Well, i don't think you can (though I'm not entirely sure). I'm assuming they were no more than a couple of months old when you put them up for adoption. My view is that it would be immoral to take them back now. at this stage, you would not what they would call their mother. to them, you would be a stranger. I'm sorry to say it, but i think you would be better off letting them stay with what they undoubtedly see as their mom and dad.

Answer 10

You gave them up!! You cant get them back and you should leave them where they are. They have already established a home with their new parents and would be confused and scared by any change you try to make now. Think about them instead of yourself.