2006-12-04 00:54:53 · 12 answers · asked by lucky_stars_28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok where do u live
2006-12-04 00:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by mKsTpN0y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a guy, because your display picture shows a guy. If you are a guy, and you don't have a boyfriend, try looking for someone with the same sexual orientation as you, or you'd just face rejection over and over.
If you're a girl, your criteria might be too high or you just don't click with the guy. But I think it's that you just haven't found the right guy yet.
2006-12-04 01:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by seraphea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister first bf was when she was 23, she was getting discouraged too, but now she is 40 and they have been together since first date, they are now married and have two children. There is a great pressure for dating early, for dating fast and for dating a lot. Neverthless dont let the pressure take the best of you :-) There are many successful stories coming from people who have never matched the standards society inflicts upon us all, but they are happy human beings nonethless!!!
2006-12-04 01:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, the thing that stood out to me most in your question was "get a boyfriend". The very way that you worded this suggests your desires and intentions behind it.
It is impossible to "get a boyfriend", because men are and always will be their own people. So I would like you to consider the motivation you have for this?
Are you trying to feel better about yourself by having a companion? Are you sad and lonely in your life and think that a boyfriend will change that? If you have a boyfriend, do you have fantasies that your life will turn out?
These are all emotions that many women deal with, and each one of them points to a problem that is not that you don't have a boyfriend. It points to the fact that you are not enjoying your life.
So here's a tip: Which girl at a bar do you think guys are most likely to want:
1) A woman who is standing there seemingly completely comfortable in her skin, laughing, having fun and talking with some friends.
2) The woman who is eyeing the crowd for potential boyfriend material, and who starts talking to a guy only because she is "probing" to see if he could be "the one".
Think for a moment, which one does a guy want?
It is the first woman. Men love a challenge, and we love to be with women who are confident in themselves, and seem like they don't NEED anyone. Women who are needy freak most guys out, because we have a natural fear of commitment.
Therefore your greatest problem is that you want a boyfriend. What I mean by this is you want to skip dating, courtship, the playful honeymonn, and the casual sexual encounters COMPLETELY, and skip right to "landing a man".
Sorry sweetie, it ain't gonna happen. By taking this tactic, you will only get really pitiful guys who are just grateful to have a women liking them.
So here's my advice to you.
1) Play with a thought for a moment. Here's the thought: "I will never ever ever find a guy to love me. It is hopeless, and it's time I gave up on that".
Then think about what life would be like if you never found a boyfriend, and see for yourself why it is you think you need one. Seriously, why do you need a boyfriend? Then once you can be honest with yourself about what you are really needing (probably love) then ask, "How can I have what I need without a boyfriend?"
This is tough, but if you can do it then something will happen. You will realize you DON'T need a boyfriend. And then something magical will happen. You will be okay being single, and enjoying life alone.
THEN you will find that EVERY GUY WANTS TO BE WITH YOU!! And you can pick and choose. Like I said, the women I want to be with are having fun in their lives, and seem like they don't need me. If you don't NEED a boyfriend, and you are totally clear on that, it will be easy to find one.
2) Once you have realized for yourself that you are actually okay alone, then here's my second advice. Don't go out to find a boyfriend (cause you don't need one).
Instead, hang with guys or even ask them out to "have some fun". Have your goal be to have fun with guys, with no strings attached. Just enjoy their company. And you will then get to experience the courtship, the playful dating stage, the first kiss, the first time having sex, all the fun stuff that DEVELOPS a relationship. WIthout these, there is no relationship.
So remember, you don't need any guy to make you happy. I can promise you there are thousands of women feeling this way, just as there are thousands of guys thinking they need a woman to make them happy.
The search for your ideal partner is really a search for a part of you that is missing. Find that part of you, and you will find true happiness and love.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 01:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jericho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have personality traits which needs improvement. Ask some of the people closest to you about this.
2006-12-04 00:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah well darlin' who need's 'em, I'm sure if you send me a pic to my email I'll let you know what your doing wrong, best I can do!
2006-12-04 00:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in come the sharks me me me i dont see how girls have a problem getting a bf dress up nice stand at a bar and wait...
2006-12-04 00:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give me more details, I'd be happy to give you some advice.
2006-12-04 00:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your prolly trying too hard. just wait for someone to come along to you.
2006-12-04 00:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-04 02:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Josh B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋