3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted to take some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting pretty serious. My girlfriend was very upset, but I insisted and we didnt see each other for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but after a few weeks she finaly took me back.We are happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not.I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work, she says for about 3 weeks she had sex daily.The past few days I have been trying not to hold in my jealousy.I know it is my fault and I gave her the freedom, but how do I get rid of my rage without showing it to my girlfriend?I have been asking her details of what happened and we have talked, and i feel i need to know altho its hard, i let herknow it is ok if she enjoyed the sexdo u thinkitsok?
2006-12-04 00:48:47 · 7 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your the one that need some time apart,then after you realize that you do love her.im sorry but i don't think that a person should have to stay away from someone to realize if they love them or not. but any way she had every right to go and be with someone else. to be honest with you the more you try to find out details the more your going to get upset.when all you really should need to know is that it went on.stop asking for details,or you will continue to become angry.if you don't feel that this is something you can live with and still be with her then you need to end it and move on, other wise when things are going bad between the two of you, your going to end up using this against her throwing it up in her face. either let it go or move on.
2006-12-04 01:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I suppose you were broken up so she could go out with someone else. But did you say you wanted a break for a month? or did you just break up with her and not say that you would want to be together. You can't really expect people to wait around for you to decide what you want but at the same time sleeping with two guys in three weeks after she had just broken up is a bit much. If she thought she would never see you again then she probably figured she could do what she wants but if you left and it was agreed between both of you that it would only be for a while then she should have remained faithful. I can understand how you are jealous though
2006-12-04 01:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by nik 28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a guy told me that he needed time off of our relationship i would think it was a way of saying i don't want you anymore. that was her way of dealing with it. trust is very important and if you can't let this go then you should let her go. you sound as if you were confused from the begining. maybe you should think about it do you really want to be with her or do you not want her with someone else. asking details is only going to hurt you more.
2006-12-04 01:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by ILOVEMYKIDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy-o, you're the one that opened this can of worms. Deal with it and stop asking for details it only makes things worse. Never bring it up again. Get to a counselor to diffuse your anger. btw..your anger should be directed at yourself. Then...if you still can't move on with the relationship, END IT PERMANENTLY.
2006-12-04 01:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by champion of the underdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter if you were taking time apart? You are playing games with her. It's none of your business what she did, you wanted to take time away from her. Why the hell are you in rage? You should be happy she still wants to be with you after you put her on layaway.
2006-12-04 01:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tristen T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you guys agreed to take some time apart, was there anything said about if you were going to date other people? b/c if there was then she definitley screwed up.
2006-12-04 02:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKING SOME APART?? bad idea. whenever you do that, things go wrong!!!!!!
i mean it was your desicion rite?? sry but its kinda u're fault. n if i was her, then i would prolly move ON.
2006-12-04 00:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by blah blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋