3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted to take some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting pretty serious. My girlfriend was very upset, but I insisted and we didnt see each other for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but after a few weeks she finaly took me back.We are happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not.I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work, she says for about 3 weeks she had sex daily.The past few days I have been trying not to hold in my jealousy.I know it is my fault and I gave her the freedom, but how do I get rid of my rage without showing it to my girlfriend?I have been asking her details of what happened and we have talked, and i feel i need to know altho its hard, i let herknow it is ok if she enjoyed the sexdo u thinkitsok?
2006-12-04 00:48:06 · 9 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU just learned a valuable lesson, didn't you? look dude if you can't handle the truth then don't ask. Be careful what you ask for. You shouldn't ask questions you don't want answers to. Now she got memories she's not going to get rid of. The proverbial CLOCK is ticking boy. GOOD LUCK with that one. You'll know better NEXT time.
TICK ...TOCK!
2006-12-04 00:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Hollywood Marine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you could possibly do is leave.
Don't wait. This needs to happen now because you will not stop thinking about what she's done, who it was with, and how many times. These actions by her have made you insecure. You now, if you didn't at first, have trust issues. This hinders progress, trust me. You will crush your mind trying to dwell in that envious manner. You dumped her, this is the effect of what you chose. Anger was her motivation for those obscene acts, but, she was honest with you and told you the truth, maybe. That's honorable. Unfortunately, this will not subside. It will be brought up in almost every argument or disagreement that you two have to endure. I'm not saying give up on your love, but, I'm saying be logical in your decision. Food for thought, time is of the essence, don't let procrastination enter into the decision for that is the enemy. Whether or not you can, will, or won't handle this is solely up to you. I hope you make the right call.
2006-12-04 09:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I'd keep on walking... Obviously she is very promiscuous and do you want a girl like that...? If she would have just dated a guy that would have been OK...but two...? That's a little too much in a month...
My advice is to find yourself a more respectable girl...
Sorry, she might be great and all...I can't really judge her...but two guys at the same time in only one month time span and supposedly she had feelings for you...nah, not my cup of tea...I'd find another one...
Though to answer your question, you gave her the clear. If she loved you, she would have waited out that month... But all you can do now is forgive and forget...next time don't ever ask someone to tell you about their past...past starts the day you get together...
Good luck...
2006-12-04 08:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask her details. It's like asking someone to scratch your healing wounds. Why would you do that?
Just make sure you guys are clean and move on. Know not to let her go again because the chances are she will get married and you will end up a loner.
Play fair. Be a man. You let her loose and now you should man up.
2006-12-04 08:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by pp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest id get rid of her ok one or twice in the month but 3 weeks daily thats and she must of hardly new them because of the shortnes of the split not only that the fact that it was 2 guys makes it even worse. 2 guys once wouldnt be that bad but sound like she was pissed off and decided to be a slag to get back at you did she even use protection if not dip your thing in bleach until shes clear i sure wudnt stay with her though.
2006-12-04 08:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do - you two were seperated at the time, and she chose to play the field. You just have to learn to live with that fact.
2006-12-04 08:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, let it go. You pushed her away and she found comfort in someone else. If she's back with you now, enjoy her company and comfort her so that she won't look elsewhere!
2006-12-04 08:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really be mad at her, you gave her the "green light" to go ahead and do it.
2006-12-04 08:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had broken up with her,she had every right to do as she pleased.
2006-12-04 08:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋