I am going skiing, snowboarding for the first time with my boyfriend and his friends. The problem is my mom. She always asks n asks every time I come with my bf. It seems that she doesnt want me to go. Im 19 years old! She treats me like 10. LOL. Soo embarrassing ever! How can I ask persmission to my mom so she will allow me to go? Pls heeelp!! Thanks!
2006-12-04 00:42:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
be grateful your mom asks you ! a lot of parents don't ask and don't care what their teenager does...................she just wants to make sure everything is ok and in case of emergency she knows where you at
2006-12-04 00:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think going on this one ski trip is necessarily what is bothering your mother. You are describing her concerns over past instances...not just with this trip. Could you mother have concerns over your boyfriend's character?
I would ask her what her concerns are and just listen. Then try to come up with ideas on how to address her concerns. For instance, she might say she is concerned that she won't be able to get a hold of you incase of an emergency. Provide her with a phone number to the hotel and a cell phone number.
Ultimately, your Mom is still looking out for you, which is a good thing to have somebody in your corner that cares about you. You should listen to her because she has the advantage of years of experience on her side. But at the same time, her little girl is growing up and needs to learn from her own experiences, as well.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 08:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 19 yr. old son, so I know how she feels. He doesnt ask permission to go, because of his age, but he knows that I trust him to make good choices. Just explain to your mom that you really want to do this and that she can trust you. She's probably just worried that you'll get hurt. Do the two of you have a trust issue? Be thankful that you have a good mom that does worry. I hope that she lets you go and that you can convince her that you'll be fine and that your b/f will also take care of you. It might help to have him talk to her also. Good Luck, and Have a safe fun time if you go.
2006-12-04 08:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your mom probably realizes what she was doing at 19, and isn't ready for you to do the same.
Time to have a heart-to-heart, let her know who you are, that you are mature enough to make your own decisions. Are you dating a loser? Seriously, you need to sell your boyfriend to your mom, and if he's a jerk, well, she probably has a point as to why you shouldn't be with him. So, have a nice long chat as to why this guy is great and why you want to spend time with him - and see where it goes.
2006-12-04 08:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by StereoZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my mom is the same way. I'm almost a junior in college and she is still asking me to call her every like half hour to make sure I'm doing ok. It's nice that she cares, but I really can't put up with it.
2006-12-04 08:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 and mommy wont let go well move out go to school get a job or live by her rules or just say look here mom this is how its gonna be im an adult now ill call and give you the peace of ming that im ok but please trust my judgment love you but loosen the leash
2006-12-04 08:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by tom c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that if you went with a group of friends, she'd ask fewer questions. She still sees you as younger, so the idea of you and your boyfriend (alone), makes her a bit uncomfortable. If you're open with her, she'll trust you more. Remember to be patient; she's concerned because she cares. Good luck!
2006-12-04 08:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask permission then you are telling your mother you are still ten....plain and simple. You need to practice TELLing her what your plans are and that she needn't worry because you understand why she is concerned and that you are also concerned about the same things. You see, a parent wants their child to stand up for themselves and be aware of WHY they themselves are worried for them... If you show that you are fullly aware and practice telling her what you're going to do, then she'll oblige. It will work...email me if you need anything, be well, Jack
2006-12-04 08:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you act 19 , she will treat you as 19. Your question shows that your'e not there yet
2006-12-04 08:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by mindtelepathy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your 19 and your an adult but you still want to be her baby girl. You want to be her baby girl but she needs to give you some slack, some air, I want to go snowbaording with my bf. Good luck!
2006-12-04 08:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Male16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋