My girl friend and I broke up. She told me that she needs space and time to grow up, do feel independent. Been going out for 2 years. She told me that deep down inside she knows that we will end up together. she not taking of our pictures from her wall or even her wallet. How long should i give her? Should i still keep alittle contact with her? Should i wait until she makes the first move? I know she loves me. I dont want to move on to a different girl, should i just wait for her? I beleive that space apart will bring us stronger together, cause u dont realize what u had until its gone.
2006-12-04 00:38:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't lose contact with her! talk to her - you can 'grow up' together!
2006-12-04 00:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ Jackielynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have the opportunity you should date other people if you still love her then keep others at a casual distance. Next time you talk to her discuss it with her. So when it's time to reconcile things she can't use that as an excuse. Because if she doesn't want to be with you, you should know the real reason. Not a made up one.
Don't waste your time, more importantly don't fixate on her and you can do that only if you are seeing other people.
Also, make sure to not sting along those girls that are helping you with this process, be nice to them, be a gentleman. You don't have to tell them your saga on the first date or even on your last date but don't you lead them on. Payback will be a *****.
2006-12-04 08:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by pp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just overreacting. Women come up with all this bullshit just so they can maintain the balance of power in the relationship in their favour. You will aid this by moping around and feeling sorry for yourself. You'll make it even worse if you decide to call her everyday and follow her around. If I were you, I'd go out, and check out the situation. I mean, what happens if she says that she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore? You're going to have to do something. That's why you should forget about it for now, have some fun and if you meet somebody new it'll provide some much needed spark in your lineup. If the two of you end up together in the end, she'll realize that she can't just decide to **** with you. Women need boundaries and it's your job to set them, my friend.
2006-12-04 08:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by Nestor Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in EXACTLY the same situation!!! Except I am the girl who has said to my bf that I need space and time. weird huh, but at least I can help you by giving you my point of view cos it might be similar to your gf's.
My bf (well ex - we were also together 2 yrs) has hardly had ANY contact with me since I broke it off...and I'm telling you he has done the right thing...I miss him SOOO Much!!!! and I wouldnt have missed him that much if he's been calling / texting all the time. so after about a month of me ending it (he didnt contact me and I didnt contact him) I couldnt take it any more!! so I've been contacting him (texting / calling every few days) and I'm telling you its cos he kept his distance. He loves me and still thinks we are meant to be together but he isn't crowding me and its working :) I'm even thinking about going to stay with him this weekend.
So, my advice is GIVE HER SPACE!!! and that way - if she DOES love you and see a future with you...SHE WILL BE IN TOUCH WITH YOU!!!! BUT...if she isnt really interested, she WONT be in touch - but if that happens at least you have done the right thing by walking away with your pride and dignity. But either way it will be better for you to give her space
PS PS PS PS PS!!!! Please answer my question about should I go visit my ex bf this weekend??? I need your opinion cos our situations are similar and you might be able to give me worthwhile advice!!!!! Thanks!!!
2006-12-04 08:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wait for her, move on. it so stupid by saying that we'll get back together after breaking up with someone, she could be just trying to make you wait for her or as a standby for her, it's selfish to do so. BUT if you love her and wanting her so much, you can still call her and stay in touch with her, but beware that you could get hurt by that. play the game safe and wise, let things go naturally, you may meet a new girl next week, who can tell.
2006-12-04 08:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel,Peter.
But the right thing is to give her her space....
I know it will be hard for you at the beging but you must go through this stage... Let her think...she'll come back...If she doesn't, and you can't wait any longer...let's say give her 1 week...then talk to her..If she doesn't want to come back to you then am sorry to say that,move on... Good luck!!!!
2006-12-04 08:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right "space apart will bring the relationship stronger".
pls talk to her as early as possible. don't wait until she move first. it is not her way, that is your move for a checkmate.
2006-12-04 08:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her as much time as she needs and you will be fine. a little contact is fine but don't over do it or she will think you are putting to much pressure on her and she wont want to come back. be patient and everything will work out.
2006-12-04 08:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have faith like she does ,that the two of you will be together, so give her her space, and it will all worked out the way it's meant to be
2006-12-04 08:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she said she wants space, you should. but call her once in a while to know how she is doing.. cause u care for her...
2006-12-04 08:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋