ive been seeing this guy really casually, we have only kissed despite him wanting to take things sexually, a bit further. i think im giving him the wrongsignals if im honest. i do like him but i want him to ask me out on a date. im not sure if hes just after sex.
anyway, i have a date this week with another guy. this guy is OK but i really like this other guy. im too shy to ask him out but im not going to put my life on hold for this guy. thats why im still dating other guys.
should i tell this guy who i really like that im going on a date with a guy as a way of trying to get him to ask me out on a date sort of thing, or will it just make the guy that i like think that im not interested in him?
2006-12-04 00:05:00 · 16 answers · asked by Special Little Girl xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems as though you should get your act together,choose which guy you want a drop the other or your in for a very bumpy ride
2006-12-04 00:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say nothing at all if you put your life on hold you could be missing out on a lot of things in life. The person your dating at the moment may be really in to you and if your not giving him the 1 thing he wants sexually he must be liking you for something else due to the fact he still wants to know you and u ain't giving him nothing apart from a kiss.
If you like this other guy quite a lot then flirt 100% when you get the chance and drop little hints about what you have been in 2 that way u could start something of by having something on common with him even music is a good sorce of flirting. Offering to lend him a CD that he's interested in etc
2006-12-04 08:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by xxxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way I use to get with a guy I like is to have a casual conversation (example- movies, music, concerts, etc). Somewhere as naturally as possible in the middle of it I throw in "we should hang out sometime".
If a guy is interested he will either try to set something up or will get back with you in a day or two. If he is not, he will agree but no specific outing will ever be mentioned (not during the conversation, not later). The only other thing you can do at this point is to set up a mixed group activity (movies and a pizza?) and invite him along. If he still declines, it is hopless. Probably stuck on someone else.
I always say 'your business is your business'. Meaning you haven't mentioned a commitment to either person, so enjoy yourself.
Volunteer no information about who you like or your other dates, but if any of the fellows asks directly tell the truth.
On the flip, if you think either of these fellows are looking for sex only, make them wait, unless you are horny, then enjoy. Waiting is usually better if you want long term, it sets a better foundation for a relationship. Decide what you want and go for it.
2006-12-04 08:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by xillith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will most likely make the guy think your not interested in him. I'd go about it differently. Like you said don't put everything off just for the guy you like, but you need to to tell the other guy how you feel about him and see how he feels about it. If he feels the same way then try and be with him because that is the one you like and something you might regret if you dont take the chance but not saying you will because of course there could be someone better in interest when you go on the date. I hope this helps some.
2006-12-04 08:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the guy you like give you a full account of his love life and tell you if he is dating other girls?
If so then I think it is only fair you do the same, if not, then keep schtum.
Until you and he class whatever it is you are doing as a monogamous relationship, then you are a free agent hun. Just be courteous and stay away from his family, friends, etc!
2006-12-04 08:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you tell the guy you are interested in that you are going on a date with someone else, it may turn him away. However, if you tell him that the date didn't go so well, he may ask you out...or tak this opportunity to ask him out.
2006-12-04 08:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Les 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is dating. Don't mean to sound like a guy here, but I am what I am. You don't have to explain anything to anyone while your dating. Have fun and go out with who you want to go out with!
2006-12-04 08:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him that.
What you could say is that you are going on a date this weekend but that you wish it was him that was that was taking you out not the other guy....
See what he says to that....
2006-12-04 08:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, id think you werent interested. youneed to tell this guy that you like how you feel, the worst he could say is no. at least then you would know where you stand and could do something about it, whether its to take things further with him or to move on....good luck
2006-12-04 08:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should. i mean a guy you like like you and you have someone else it whould hurt him and it whould hurt you even more to see him real upset. i was in that situation too so i know what to do after that so you take it from me.
2006-12-04 08:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by aznsexygirl_16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋