Ive been going out with my girlfriend for over a month now but we've know each other for nearly a year at this stage. We liked each other from the start but she was going out with another guy at the time so nothing happened. But she broke up with him and is now with me. And everything was great. But lately in her txt messages to me shes seemed a bit cold or soemthing. I really do give her everything in my heart and when i txt her i try get accross to her how i feel about her, so ill say nice things to her. And up until a week ago she'd do the same. But now if i say something nice to her she'll just txt back something like: Me too. She wont say the words. Does this mean anything or is it nothing?
2006-12-03 23:59:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could mean something or it could be nothing. Do you spend a lot of time together or do you rely heavily on txt messages to communicate? How soon after her break-up with the other guy did you guys get together? Why did she break up with him? Is she going through a busy time with work/studies? Were you good friends before you started going out? These are all things that could have an influence.
You sound a bit insecure. Get over it as soon as possible. If you're telling her how you feel in great detail often, hoping that she'll respond in kind, she might feel like the relationship is moving too fast, but because she doesn't want to hurt you she tries to slow things down this way. Try focusing on the friendship you share, doing fun things together, talking about things other than your relationship, how you feel and how she feels. Let her know that it's okay for her to take her time deciding where she wants the relationship to go and make an agreement that either of you can tell the other person honestly if the relationship is not working for them. Just remember that if she wants to slow down the relationship, it doesn't mean she wants to break up with you. It's more likely that she likes and respects you, and values your friendship enough to rather go slow and be sure, than rush along and break your heart. Girls really don't like hurting guys, so they find it really hard when a guy makes them feel like they don't have the right to choose anymore - she HAS to be head-over-heels-all-over-him in love or else it's going to break his heart.
So give her some space and focus on building the friendship between you, not the relationship. A strong relationship builds naturally on a strong friendship. But you can't build the house without the foundation.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 00:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by adeleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might mean nothing at all.. what if she is with someone else at the time ur texting her.. and so as not to arise any suspicions.. she is doing it. If she is her normal self when you two meet and go out.. then it just means nothing. But if she is giving you a cold shoulder even when you are together, then better be on a lookout.. and ask her about the same....
2006-12-04 08:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sakshi C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know? i guess it all depend on what nice things you are saying.if you are telling this girl that you love her, maybe you are moving to fast. speaking from a girls point of view, yes it nice when guys say nice things to you, but it can also get annoying if they do it to much. so, maybe that what your doing.try talking to her or txt. her about other things other than saying nice things all of the time.try telling her about your day, or what your doing tomorrow.
2006-12-04 08:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is really hard to tell somones mood through text messages, just keep that in mind.
Also she could sick of texting, or she might not know what to say.
Don't jump to conclusions, because there could be a perfectly good reason why she is being short with you.
Take into consideration where and who she is with when she texts you, if all her friends are around and want to read what she is saying, then she might not want to say anything personal, or if she is in class she might not have time to say much.
Just talk to her about it
2006-12-04 08:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be re-thinking everything, catching her breath, and just having a good think on what's going on in life, I't probably better to see in real life rather than just txt her.
2006-12-04 08:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by th3spy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her.... the txt didn't really tell what she felt at that time....
i suggest a confrontation wherein you will see her facial expressions, her reactions and what she really feels about you.
love is not about how many times you say "i love you!"
but how you prove it's true.
2006-12-04 08:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess you can limit u saying nice things to her(at ur own risk)and check her reaction.women think differently from men.when you try to be a "nice guy" they may intepret it different.so let her know ur a strong personality
2006-12-04 08:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by dulanka k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋