been a friend with benifits or had a partner for casual sex only. were you able to handle it and what was the end result.
2006-12-03 23:56:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have. It was with a really good friend of mine. After it was over with we still remained friends even after I married. But the benefits ended. If you both go into knowing up front and what you both expect to get out of it your friendship should remain intact.
2006-12-04 00:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Carmela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, it was great.
We only had physical attraction (he had no personality, but looked gorgeous), that was the reason we kept it to f*ck buddies and not a relationship.
We did this coz at the time neither one of us wanted a relationship, but we both agreed we would tell the other straight away if our circumstances changed. Which is what happened. We didn't remain friends really, coz we weren't ever friends. Just someone who I met who wanted the same thing as me. I felt I was ready for a relationship and we stopped the casual thing. I am now engaged and settled in a fab relationship, and I hear through the grapevine that he has recently gotten engaged too.
I think it is great, as long as you both know what is happening and what you expect from each other...lay out the ground rules first!!!
Rule No 1 - Only do it if you can detatch sex and emotions!
Rule No 2 - Don't read too much into it, take it for what it is...sex!
2006-12-04 08:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I did. A while ago. It was fine, we both understood the situation and we never got more involved than that. We were just mates. I used to go round his house for a drink or to watch a movie. Things didn't get complicated at all. Then we stopped doing the casual thing and became mates only. Then I got a boyfriend, he got a girlfriend, but we stay away from each other now, for our current partners' sakes.
2006-12-04 08:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a fling with an older woman im 20 she was 29 it was deemed to keep it to jsut sex only however she had other things in her head it was great while it lasted but she started getting jelous and clingy she became conviced i was seeing someone else and even if i was there shouldnt have been a problem anyhow she turned nasty said some very unpleasnt things the next day she realised her stupidity and tried to say sorry by then i was to hurt/upset/angry to care she even tried following me and im not joking she did now i avoid her at all costs and got a new job. i learned my lesson and i doubt that can have a just sex relationship for any period of time without starting to think about more.
2006-12-04 08:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a partner for casual sex only. It's great! I can send him home when I'm fed up of him and there is no emotional attachment on either side. Only trouble is, he had to move to be nearer his job and because he works shifts I only get to see him once every 3 weeks. I really need it a bit more regularly than that.
2006-12-04 08:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by jeeps 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basic answer; yes. yes & errr, friends.
More detail: My flatmate & I have b'n friends-with-benefits (as you put it) for years, in fact the whole time I'v known him. We went out for 2 yrs to start, but when we split we stayed really close & he went with another girl & had a dauhter with her. But when we'v been single & bored we've used each other.
It was fine, until we moved in together as flat mates, then it became so frequent that I got too involved, but he then met someone on-line & I got MEGA stroppy!! But we got thru that & I realised I didn't feel as I thought I did. We're now again the closest of friends & everyone's happy.
Y? R u considering it? U have to be V sure of your feelings before you try it!!
2006-12-04 08:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation before. We ended up getting feelings for each other, which kind of complicated things since neither one of us really wanted to get into a relationship. The lease on her place was up and the owner decided to sell it, so she had to move away. I rarely talk to her anymore.
2006-12-04 08:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Blayzn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done that. Both of us were intimate with other people during the whole time and knew about it. Best relationship I've ever had.
Cause all of the empathy was there without anyone asking for fidelity or any of that other bull****.
2006-12-04 08:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Engineers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep,but be careful you dont fall for him coz that's where things go wrong,i managed it for a few months but my feelings started to develope for the person we went through a bit of a quite stage but we got through it now we are just mates.
2006-12-04 08:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by NEIL C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend wiv benefits and it was brilliant but it did come to an end wen she met someone. not seen her since but it was very very good while it lasted!
2006-12-04 09:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋