I met a bloke at the weekend (at my friends wedding). We got on really well and ended up spending the night together. He seemed very keen on me couldnt understand why I was still single etc. He's also single. We both work long hours and live about 3 hours away from each other. He was eager to meet up again, as I am, but in the morning I expressed realistic concerns about getting into a relationship that would be difficult for both of us (time, distance) and perhaps it was best not to meet again. He said he still wanted to see me and so we discussed meeting up later this week. I texted him a couple of times to see if he got home ok and rang him last night but no answer. Eventually he texted back to say he'd phone me today. I get the impression he doesnt want to meet again. If that's the case, then why was he so insistant on it and why didnt he say when I gave him the opportunity to say so on saturday morning?
What do you think and what would you do in my situation?
2006-12-03 23:54:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he said he'd phone you today what is the concern? I think you are putting too much thought into this too early on. Give him a chance. Albeit nice that you called to insure his safe trip home but I believe guys don't think like us. He probably doesn't think so much about not returning the call etc. I hope you are wrong, but I would just hang on and be patient.
2006-12-04 00:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him alone. How bi-polar do you look right now? First you express your realistic concerns that you two work long hours and live pretty far away, then you proceed to pursue him. . . What I assume happened is, he was all caught up in the afterglow of whatever you two did that night and would have agreed to a shotgun wedding at that point, but by the time he made the ridiculously long sojourn back to his place, he realized just how right you were. Be amazed, a guy actually may have listened to you. LOL
2006-12-04 07:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by wendy_the_pyro 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Typical guy response. With a little time, he probably saw YOUR original point of view and realized you were right.
I would feel flattered that his first reaction was to try to get together, but I wouldn't hold my breath. Go back to your first instinct, take the fond memories of a fun night and don't look back.
In other words, keep your dignity. Nothing less attractive than pursuing what looks to have been a one night stand. He probably feels really sheepish and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you he changed his mind due to logistics.
If this is all wrong, he knows where to find you. But don't hold your breath.
Take care.
2006-12-04 07:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by roswell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you said it your self, you are both very busy people. so give him some time to call you.if he doesn't then let it go and chalk it up to a one night stand.as far as you saying that you you have just been used. think about that for a second.your the one in the morning that said you did not think that you should meet with him again,not him.you went to bed with this guy after only knowing him for a few hours and you did this with your eyes wide open.so maybe you used each other.
2006-12-04 08:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe on Saturday he was keen on the idea of trying a relationship, but once he got home, realized you were right and isn't so keen on it anymore. As you said it would be difficult to maintain a relationship with someone so far away. If it were me, I would fondly remember him and the weekend and move on.
2006-12-04 07:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you both took advantage of a mutual situation. You can look back on this fondly and move on, as it was a brief moment in time when your "stars aligned". I don't think this is the start of a long-term relationship, but more of just something pleasant that happened.
2006-12-04 07:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi well maybe he was just looking for a one night stand,an by him agreeing not to see you again,would've made him look as though its all he wanted from you,i do hope it works out for you but if he doesn't ring you today then don't contact him again your worth more, good luck.
2006-12-04 08:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by firefly08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget it was you who expressed your doubts and he wanted to pursue you. Sounds to me like he is keen! Give the poor man a chance! You need to suss out what you really want in the meantime though because you already seem to be sending him mixed messages!
2006-12-04 07:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could have changed his mind after you were negative about the chances of a relationship between you.
If he's the perfect guy for you, does it matter where he lives? Surely you're not going to give up your chance of happiness because of geography, are you?
2006-12-04 07:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y'know if someone told me to my face that he/she didn't want to see me again, I wouldn't be awfully keen on staying in touch regardless of my intentions or wishes. And what's this about being used? Not like he lied about anything, or did he?
2006-12-04 07:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Engineers 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋