my girlfriend broke up wit me 2 months ago cus she thinks i dont trust her but i do,i have been having severe problems and i snapped at her acccusing her of having feelings 4 a mate,i was under pressure. She wont speak 2 me but im madly in love with her,her mates say she is mad at me but they know that deep down she loves me,she wont speak 2 me on the phone r face 2 face,her friends say she is trying 2 just block me out but shes hurting,i have spoke 2 a counsellor and she told me 2 keep trying with her that its never 2 late. i really love this girl,cant stop thinking about her and when we were togeather she was mad about me.What should i do,i want 2 spend my life wit her,being apart is killing me
2006-12-03 23:53:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-03 23:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be completely honest with you, i think the only thing that will help you through this is time. I don't mean time to forget her or anything like that but just time for her to calm down and for you to just take some time to think things through and that....
You said she won't talk to you on the phone or face-to-face yet her friends are saying it's killing her as much as it's killing you. Well, i think you should write her a letter. Even if she rips it up and throws it in the bin, write another.... and do the same until you know for a fact that she's read it..
In the letter you could just explaing things... and your feelings. Letters are always good because they are personal and can be read over and over if needs be.
Wish you luck x
2006-12-04 08:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeous_ami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your break up. I'm going through the same thing myself right now. If you really love her then give her some space. I'm not saying months, I'm saying about another week and don't contact her. If she loves you, she'll miss you and want to speak to you. Or you could send her Roses and a card saying that you're sorry for doubting her love for you and you'll never accuse her of anything ever again. If she loves you, she'll be back. I wish for the best for you. I know that you're hurting right now because I am too and it's not a good feeling, it's a numb feeling. You have to find something to occupy your time right now. Love will find a way, trust me.
2006-12-04 08:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to write her a letter. Tell her what you told us about the problems you were having , u love her, etc. This way even though she wont talk to you she's going to read your letter and it will be in her mind. Once its read she cant forget it. Then sit back and wait. Let her make the next move. Maybe there is stuff going on in her life too. If she gets in touch with you great, then you can go from there. If she doesnt well you just have to go on with your life because she wasnt as mad about you as you thought. Good Luck!
2006-12-04 08:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by Carmela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this girl won't speak to you and is trying to move on with her life then I think you should respect that. I think you may be merely extending both your pain by constantly pursuing her in this way. I think there is one last thing you could try, if you have a mutual friend why not ask them to sit in on a meeting between you and your ex to act as a mediator. See if you can sort things out in a neutral environment. Alternatively try writing a letter to your ex explaining how you feel, that you still have feelings for her and that you would like to get back together but that if she doesn't reply to the letter then you will leave things at that and not continue to pursue her in this way, that you will respect her wishes to remain apart. Ultimately, you can't erase the past and if she feels these things have come between you before, then she may be unable to see beyond these things probably happening again if you were to have a future. Things that don't work out, usually don't work out for a reason and you may have to accept that she has moved on. Either way I wish you luck, if it does come to moving on yourself, remember there are millions of fish in the sea and while it may not feel like it now, you will love again. Good luck!
2006-12-04 07:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by AngelWings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a similar problem like this. If you love this girl then you should trust her. Certain incidences do try to give insecurities but you should have at least asked your girl about this guy, before accusing her. Now if you think that u r wrong and you accused her wrongly then spare no efforts to convince her of your guilt, but if you are convinced that she fancies ur mate then better you leave it, coz even after this patch up there will be rifts again and pretty bad ones.
2006-12-04 08:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by metallixan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she worth it. Getting you to jump through hoops and you're not even married yet. I can understand being accused of cheating is not nice, but why the reaction? Guilt? Find a girl who will love regardless of the fact that you feel insecure about losing her, this is a natural fear when you love something or someone dearly.
2006-12-04 07:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you she'll come back around!. Maybe she just needs a bit of time to think things over. Shes probably missing you heaps as well and will eventually realise this and come back. Good luck with everything!
2006-12-04 07:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by MizK♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your counsellor is right it's never to late to win her back,just give her some time,she will calm down soon,try to talk to her, let her know that you really are sorry,but you also need to calm down when things get on top of you try your best not to take it out on your girlfreind!
2006-12-04 08:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by NEIL C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basis for love is trust, confidence and respect. You really breached all of them. But if you really love her, you will do the best you can to win her back, for good, this time. Good luck. I hope she will see your sincerity.
2006-12-04 08:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by edith i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her keep trying. try to see her any how if no luck then send her flowers or even one flower "make it red rose" with a romantic simple card and write only one word "SORRY"
but be careful, don't hurt her again. try to think of your words when you are angry because it's not her fault even if it's be nicely angry
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-04 08:13:28 · answer #11 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋