I have a friend who has been in a relationship for 7 years. She has met someone else and wants to sleep with this person! However she feels happy in the relationship she is in and feels very confused. All she wants from this person is sex. What should she do?
2006-12-03 23:05:17 · 31 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thanks everyone. she's read your answers and i'm trying to help also.
2006-12-03 23:13:16 · update #1
poor girl Ive been in the same situation and its easy for others to be judgemental of her.however i feel sorry for her but i must advice her not to sleep with this man despite her attractions,it would ruin her relationship,even if her partner didn't find out she would be consumed with grief,tell her to leave well alone sometimes things are better left as fantasy.
2006-12-03 23:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by karen. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to have a good think about things before she does anything!! If it is just sex shes interested in then it definately isnt worth it!.. they might be rubbish for a start and it may not go anywhere leaving her with nothing but guilt. I think she owes it to her partner to talk about how shes feeling and maybe then they can work together at spicing their relationship up? I think if she continues to have these thoughts then she needs to end it with her man so he doesnt get hurt unecessarily in the long run.. then she can sh*g away! Always do the right thing.. honesty is the best policy!!
2006-12-04 01:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she is agonising about it means that casual sex outside her relationship is not a meaningless event for her. If she does it, it will prey on her mind and probably destroy her relationship. She should either break up with her boyfriend because she wants to be free to go off and do this sort of thing, or spice up her love life because she wants to make it work. Any other path is dishonest and will probably come back to bite her.
2006-12-03 23:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Robin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they say that every 7 years our life changes in some way it has to do with the moons phases and the alignment of planets, but if you ask me i think her relationship has just got in to a bit of a rut that's all, maybe they should try and find sometime for them selves maybe go out for a meal or a drive somewhere or if they can't due to kids then why doesn't she dress up in sexy underwear and they have a nice meal at home and give each other massages with candles and incense burning ect, also she should talk with her bloke say they have been taking each other for granted and take time out for cuddles and to appreciate each other, in other words she should talk to her bloke and try and spice things up and make an effort to save her relationship before she wrecks it for good
2006-12-04 01:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think she should be unfaithful - if she was truly happy then she shouldnt be having these doubts.
Maybe her partner and her have just gone stale in the bedroom department and just need to spice things up.
She could always go on a 'date' with her current partner and act like its their first.
Tell her to speak with her partner about their relationship and see how he feels as he may have similar doubts.
2006-12-03 23:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should have a girl night and rent the movie starring Marilyn Monore the "7 year itch" it's a great movie and it has a great ending..... which I think will help your friend do the right thing!!
2006-12-04 01:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should remain faithful to her boyfriend... If she wants to sleep around then she should leave him and then do it. There is no excuse for cheating at all.. I'm sure she wouldnt like it is he got the "7 year itch".... She really needs to think about it...
2006-12-03 23:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tat is verry unethical !! im sure she wud kill the guy if he went and slept with someone grl and expected things to be fine with her !
i mean she is messing up a 7 year old relationship !!
if she is soo happy with the guy she is with then she shud not be getign this idea !
i guess she is not all tat happy like she claims !! mayb she is suffocating in this relationship !
its a one time thing !! not everyone is lucky to have found someone hu they could be with for about 7 years !
im sure it must me somethign special !
ask her not to lose that!!
she will be called shallow if she does this !!
tc
all the best
2006-12-03 23:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously isn't in love with her partner otherwise she wouldn't even consider it. She should get out of the relationship if that's the case then she can do what she wants without hurting an innocent person.
2006-12-03 23:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by jacee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boredom
2006-12-03 23:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by London Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋