I have been in an on again off again relationship and again it's off. I can't call her, email her or IM her as usual when she gets mad. This last time was right after Thanksgiving. She started an argument with me and told me not to call or email. I've emailed twice since and she emailed back once and said "Stop emailing me". This isn't the worst fight we've had and she's eventually started talking to me again. She is an older woman so someone said she's setting her ways. I've always been the one to start talking to her but I doubt if I leave her alone she'll come looking for me. I've treated her good, I've done nothing wrong. Her friend told me that when she wants to "Run" meaning look elsewhere she does this to people. The Holidays are coming and I really miss her. I wanted to spend the Holidays with her, in fact that was our plans. What should I do? Should I not bother her or should I try to contact her? She's a very stubborn woman.
2006-12-03 23:02:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her some space and time
2006-12-03 23:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the only freind you have ? I feel sorry for you, but do not feel bad when I ask you, just what exactly, I mean as a true freind, do you see in this woman ? You both have had fights before, and have you really gone through on the ''why'' you have fights issue ? I think you should. She seems to be a totally unreliable freind. I mean, when she feels angry, she just disappears. Now which freind would do that ? More importantly, yes, she ''runs'' from situations. Taking a break after an argument is okay, but that does not end any relationship. And as usual, you took the initiative to write to her, where she has clearly told you to stop emailing her. Now, I do not know if you have really boosted her ego, and she just wants you to keep doing that until she is satisfied, and then get in touch with you. For a change, how about showing that you too have feelings, and dignity to some extend. You are a true freind, and you were sweet enough to email her. Thats that. Now just sit and wait, if she bothers to reply to you, good, continue, but maintain your own individuality, than hanging around her all the time. If she does not bother you, you know whether she is a true freind or not. And your life would not stop there, move on. Dont limit yourself to other people. If you really look, you'll see how many good freinds you'd find out there.
good luck
2006-12-03 23:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No contact. If she wants to be with you she will say so. More fish in the sea buddy. Im going through the same thing. Although mine helps cause she's 1500 miles away and I don't have to run into her it makes it easier to move on. Go to church and pray that god will have a better woman for you. If she's older she probably already knows what she wants. If its not you then someone out there will see you for who you are. Don't be sappy, shave your balls and be happy. Whooa little buddy. Im just playing.
2006-12-03 23:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mike Hunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her flowers to her house with a note and don't email her anymore. Just say "want to spend the holidays with you" and leave it at that. I am also stubborn, and if you kept doing things that I asked you not to do, it would piss me off. So back off, let her know you care and you want to spend the holidays, but just say it once and let her stew on it and get back to you.
2006-12-03 23:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you feel good about being with someone that doesn't want to be with you? She sounds like she's not a very loyal person to me. Just ignore her and see what happens if you want to put youself through it again and again and again.
2006-12-03 23:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Shangrala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone for a while. if she does not contact you, she does not want to be with you. there must be a reason why you broke-up so much. maby it's time to move on. how about being with someone where all of this problems does not exist?
2006-12-03 23:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Levi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, leave her alone. Sounds like she has a lot of issues. Do you really want this in your life? Find something steady and be happy.
2006-12-03 23:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and try asking her friend out. Asuming this friend is a woman, if this friend is a woman maybe she likes you and is trying to keep you from getting hurt.
2006-12-03 23:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please forgive me, but this does not sound like a real adult relationship. It sounds like someone who throws temper tantrums and their hostage. Are you afraid that she is the only woman you will ever be able to attract? I can not imagine why you would stay with her otherwise.
2006-12-03 23:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋