i m 28yrs i love a guy who 38yrs.our caste and community are different.my parents is against it.what to do.?

Answer 1

You are 28 years old.It does not matter what anybody else thinks. It's your life and you only get one so you should do whatever it takes to make YOU happy.

Answer 2

Understanding the concept "caste system in India" -


According to the laws of Manu, all the priests, pundits and Brahmins fall into the Brahmin category. The protection of the country was to be done by the Kshatriyas. The trading community was to be called Vaishya and the worker class as Shudra.

It was not Manu or anybody else for that matter that caste system came into existence. I may be born in a Jain family. If I feel like joining the Army then I am following the Kshatriya Dharma. And one in the same family joins the trading business. He no doubt follows the Vaishya Dharma. In such circumstances is anybody to blame!

If a child is born in the Shudra family and joins the Army! He is ultimately following Kshatriya Dharma. The concept of the four castes was not to create disharmony amongst people of various communities... rather it was to keep them bound together.

The vested interests of politicians and religious leaders have ruined the system. They have tried to differentiate people of various castes on communal lines! This was the prime reason why Mahatma Gandhi termed the Shudra community as harijan. And who is a harijan? A son of God... a son of Hari (in Hinduism God is also represented as Hari).

This was one of the noblest things Mahatma Gandhi ever did for the community. He laid down his life for the country is a different matter. More on caste system in India here- http://www.godrealized.com/Hinduism.html

Answer 3

I'm not against age differences however ten years can be a world of difference As far as your parents go most times they do seem to have a sense about certain things concerning their children ask them why they are against it let them give you some good reasons and listen to them then consider what is said and then you are old enough to judge for yourself also get a second opinion but if your parents are looking out for your best interest and you have listened to their advice in the past and what they said helped you consider that also maybe you ll be spared some heartache down the road.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Follow what you belive in not what other people tell you. It is your life not theirs and if you love him then it will not matter. Your parents might not like him right now but what is to say in a couple of months down the road they would not start to liking him. It takes more than a day to know someone. So fallow what your heart says.

Answer 6

if you are willing to give up your family.....move and live your own life with this man.....if you can't bear the thought of life without your family, then give up the guy.....either way is painful.....families sometimes come around and are accepting after many years of bitter struggle. You can also love many different people in many different ways; there'll be other opportunities for love. The bottom line is whatever you choose it's your choice; just know what you are choosing and accept it.

Answer 7

if you know that it's love, you have to ask yourself if it really matters what the community thinks of you. your parents love you and will surely come around. just be sure that if you are going to put everything on the line, that it really is love and nothing less

Answer 8

you have to discuss it all over amicably with your parents, give them reasons why you love this guy certainly they will come to a compromise, but if they dont, dont disobey them discuss everything with the guy for him to understand why your parent are reacting the why they are doing. above all pray for God's grace and wisdom to touch your parents mind befor discussing the issue with them.

Answer 9

First , learn to use spell check. Now, you are both consenting adults do as you wish . Its your life not your mom and dad's. Be happy !!!

Answer 10

whatever you do, dont go afar away and leave your family. it never ends up in a good ending. just try to convince them that your man is a good and caring, and may i add lovable, boyfriend.