My auntie is a complete and utter *****. She hates me. Everytime she comes to my house she verbally attacks me.
There's always something WRONG with me when she comes around.
SHE WILL COMMENT ON ANYTHING FROM WHAT I WEAR TO WHO I HANG OUT WITH etc etc
2006-12-03 22:56:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
She isn't the type who can sit and talk, she thinks she is always right.
2006-12-03 23:05:38 · update #1
easy... you have a room i suggest you hide.....
hide in a cubord if you can fit ( your skinny enough u stick)
=) i love ya really
2006-12-04 22:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by louise h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess this depends on how much courtesy you wish to extend her - and whether you woulc consider dropping to her level for a brief time.
Blunt responses like:
"Why do you wish to visit me if you are always complaining about everything"?
".....well just as well that we are both allowed to choose our own clothes and not have to wear what the other thinks is attractive"
"..I quite like being able to pick and choose my own friends - do you - or do you like hearing people criticise them all the time?"
If there is TRULY no love between you and you wish to get the message home "If you MUST come around to visit me, could you possibly mind your own business about what I wear, who my friends are - and in short, everything else. If you do not like the way I do things, please do NOT feel obligated to stay a moment longer, I will happily carry your cases to the car".
This, albeit blunt would I suggest be effective - however it is possible that other family members would find that a little OTT.
I guess you need to find what level of bluntness works best from the somewhat direct method above to the much more restrained:
"Aunt, you are most welcome to visit, but would you mind keeping your personal remarks to yourself please, I do not wish to hear them"
2006-12-03 23:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mark T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definately sit down and tell her how you feel when she does that too you.You need to communicate with her.If that doesn't work then the best thing would be to accept that that is the way she is and let it go in one ear and out the other.As long as you love yourself the way you are,that is all that matters.Don't ever let anyone put you down.Whenever they do,just love yourself all the more.You will get through it.Keep your chin up.Good luck.
2006-12-03 23:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could not invite her. You could also try reasoning w/her. If she is just plain old mean, then I would start verbally attacking back. Like if she state "I don't like the sweater your wearing". You could respond, "Well it's a good think I don't care about your opinion". But say it w/a smile.
2006-12-03 23:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Deana S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't your mom say anything? If not, completely ignore her. If your mom tells you off, tell her why. Act like you don't care, talk to others calmly as though your auntie isn't there or does not exist.
2006-12-03 23:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sound like some un resolved promblems have you tryed to sit down with her and ask her why she treats you the way she does maybe you two can come to a better understanding from one another
2006-12-03 22:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by googleh20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she comes visitng next, say this: "Oh, auntie xxxx, I wonder if you can help me out with the meaning of this word, - opinionatedness - do you know what it means? "
If she says, " I don't know", say thank you and offer to let her know it when you've found the definition.
I don't have to say anything more, if she says "yes, i know". and proceeds to let slip....
Good luck on this!
2006-12-04 01:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by thru a glass darkly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if sitting her down to talk to her wont work, next time she tries to put you down, tell her to sit down and shut up. this is who you are, and her opinions can not change you. you are an individual and are allowed to express yourself freely, if she has a problem with who you are and how you express yourself, she can keep her thoughts to herself and write it in a journal cause noone cares what she thinks
2006-12-03 23:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask her why she's so mean? Why not let her know her comments hurt you? Why not tell her to stop making any comments that offend you and if she doesn't stop, then ask her to leave. Why let her make your life miserable.
2006-12-03 23:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably has problems and is just taking it out on you. Nobody should do what she's doing it's just plain old wrong.
2006-12-03 23:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by Acire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋