I have had sex before, but she hasn't.
What can I do to make it special for her??
2006-12-03 22:51:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it's very sweet what you're doing for me and I do appreciate it!!!!
When we get married, to make it special - You can take things slowly and be really really romantic.
You know I love you with all my heart and soul.
Hope everything goes fantasically for us and our future.
XXX
2006-12-04 02:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by littlepixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a very special thing that is shared between two people. The greatest thing that a girl can give a guy is her virginity. Of course, it is the best and most special if you wait until you're married and have sex with only him/her, but if you want to have sex before that, then that's also okay. Does she really want to have sex with you as she's still a virgin? Maybe hold off on the sex until you guys are married (if you get married). In my opinion, sex is a very special thing and is only meant to be shared with 2 people in one person's entire lifetime. Waiting until you're married for sex makes it very special, as the person you're doing it with is having a part of you, as it's all about Give and Take.
2006-12-03 23:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by ceecee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be. Just think how special it would be for the both of you if you waited. It may not be the best, but it could be the most special that either of you have had. That is just one gift you can't measure the way most people would. I would take it as the ultimate compliment that someone waited until marriage.
2006-12-04 05:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Julia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband too was a virgin. I regret that I could not give my self to him completely on our wedding night. Especially since I was his first. (I was forced by another man when I was in high school. I was scared, so I gave in.)
I could of waited till my wedding day. I was so stupid. My husband was so good to me even though I was not a virgin, and our wedding night was so great.
I found out that it is so much better with someone you really love, someone who loves you in return. Some one I'm committed to for life.
Please allow her to wait, to be with you on the wedding night if possible. Don't force anyone to have sex to early, when they are not ready.
It really will bring you closer to wait until that night, especially since you know you are her first and only one.
To make the night special---
You could take her to a very nice place, put rose petals on the bed. Have candles lite. Soft music playing. Take your time no rushing. Give her a special gift, maybe even do a strip tease for her. This breaks the ice. Make it fun, and be gentle with her.
2006-12-03 23:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
fist things first make sure that she is ready. NEVER push her into it.
also if you are about to get to it and then she suddenly has a change of heart dont be mad at her and dont let her know that you are dissopinted, u have to make her see that you are ready to wat 4 her.
also before you have sex do foreplay for at least 10 mins as this will loosen her up and then she knows that at leats your not just wanting sex, that you are actually wanting to pleasure her to.
this may sound a bit weird but use a ribbed condon as it will give you alot of pleasure( exspecciall as it is her first time) and it will also give her alot of pleasure to.
let her know that you love her and that you will wait until she is fully ready.
good luck n remember it is her first time.
2006-12-03 23:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by samantha j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until after you are married! Honor her and show her how special you believe she is to you! Having relations before marriage is selfish and ultimately detrimental to a positive relationship. Wait, and make the moment something worth remembering!!!
2006-12-03 22:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by Illuminated 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
great sex takes time. couples have to have sex many times before they get to know what one another likes. i have found the longer im with someone the better it gets. so be prepared for the first time to be a bit messy. you will get there. be gentle if shes a virgin as it can hurt if shes not relaxed. take plenty of time to get her turned on, wait for her to tell you when shes ready. good luck xx
2006-12-03 22:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by louise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eroticism has nothing to do with whether you're married or not. Eroticism is heightened by the feelings involved and your partner's willingness to participate fully in all types of sexual activity that you both feel comfortable with.
2006-12-03 22:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you marry her before having sex with her then it will be much more special and meaningful!
2006-12-03 23:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is a big part of any relationship. To wait until you are married, to me is ridiculous, as if you are not sexually compatible, then the marriage will not work.
2006-12-03 22:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋