this person complains frequently that "there is nothing to do" when not at college.
doesn't want to study or do housework
the gym is too far away
has no hobbies or interests
doesnt like reading books
wants company of other people
but seems to be having difficulty finding satisfying activities/friends
any ideas anyone?
2006-12-03 22:18:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The teenager in question is unfortunately like many out there nowadays. The "coulda woulda shoulda" answer would have been directed towards the childs parents. Start young, once they get to teenage years you have not much influence over their personality or their lifestyle choices when not around you. You have to take time with them when they are little and be consistant throughout the years. Enter the building blocks of personality as well as life. Enter sports, hobbies, and other extra curricluar activities and help them grow, don't just watch from the sidelines. Intervention at this point is futile. Good Luck !
2006-12-04 05:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should start by spending time talking to the teenager but not lecturing or giving sermons. Ask them about different topics like maybe painting, writing, challenges that they have, different types of art, social activities, outdoor activities and see how they respond to the different topics. Also, look at what their friends are doing to spend time... do internet search... maybe do charitable work... making christmas and new year cards with a ground of local teenagers to sell and donate money to poor and vulnerable people...
2006-12-03 22:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent try engaging the child in the possible activities which the child hasnt still encountered.like,if the child feels interested in doing something different,encourage.also,tell about the bad effects one has on health if addicted to alcohol.suppose,u bake a bun,and u give the chocolate sauce or something to the person and ask him to decorate it..!just make everything special and motivated.
just wish ur son good morning in a different way..etc..jus make him feel cosy,energetic and free to tell u wht evr he wants to...
2006-12-04 02:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by For peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is having problems adjusting with the move from school into collage talk to the collage about his progress he sounds depressed to me what are his old school Friends doing has he made new Friends in collage maybe he could find a part time job he will have more money to get out with and meet up with Friends he needs a push don't let him get into the habit of sittin round the house if he is depressed sittin in drinking will only make the sittuaton worse
2006-12-03 23:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is exactly the same (shes 16 this month) she won`t go anywhere to mix and make friends and does only go out to meet her friends from up town to drink ! She is a good girl tho , she comes home on time etc but i tell her life is what you make it . She has a college interview this week so hopefully she will get a place and make new friends .
2006-12-04 02:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put aside some time to spend together. Talk. The more you get to know each other, the easier it will be to find distractions and amusements. My 13 year old son and I are really good friends and knowing what he enjoys is extrememly helpful when trying to keep him occupied.
2006-12-03 22:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by cstspeedy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two ideas - Sport - any local footy, tennis clubs (or similar)?
Music/ Drama - any local societies he/she could join - either as an actor/singer or behind the scenes?
2006-12-03 22:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you'll just have to help her find hobbies that she enjoys. Of course, there's always the TV.....
2006-12-03 22:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for a job as a barmaid or waitress in a pub or bar.
2006-12-03 22:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by MI5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical teenager to me. they will grow up one day.
2006-12-03 22:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋