I need help saying no?

Question

I have a problem saying no this boy asked to have sex with him at school and I said yes but I didd'nt mean it I did'nt really even know what I was saying what should I do he wants to have sex today how do i tell him I am not interrrested

Answer 1

Much to the chagrin of many a blue-balled young lad, you, Dear, have the right to change your mind up to the last second before penetration - so use it! And don't decline in some mamby-pamby half-assed way, or in his horniness, I assure you he'll "persuade" you to change your mind back again. Just be firm and clear and be done w/ it, and as soon as he starts to argue, cajole, etc, just give him a choice: 1) accept your decision now and he can continue to hang out w/ you, or 2) continue to whine, and you'll just be done w/ him for good. I know that sounds harsh, but trust me, we guys are super-driven for the booty, and if you're @ all wishy-washy, he won't hear "no", he'll hear "you're not trying hard enuff"...lol, but seriously.

Now, on to more important matters. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and guess you were sexually abused when you were very young, no? I say that, cuz you sound and express yourself like a victim - not being able to say 'no', and really not having a sense of yourself and your own boundries. If that's the case, the situation you're in now will repeat itself over and over, w/ potentially horrible consequences. If I'm right, and you were traumatized as a child, even if not sexually, talk to someone about it so you can work to regain your sense of self and your power. Victims attract victimizers, so break the chain now.

If I'm totally off base, well, my apologies, and it ain't the first time. And if you wanna talk more about it, gimmie a holler. And good luck. And (last "and") don't forget - be strong and firm, and don't worry about hurting his feelings (you will - he'll deal) or him not liking you (i know it's cliche, but true - if that's all it takes, he ain't worth it).

Good luck.

Answer 2

NO is simple

Thessalonians I 4:3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:

Ephesians 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Corinthians I 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Corinthians I 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Corinthians I 10:8 Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.

Answer 3

A good firm no is the only way. A sheepish no, or maybe later will only make matters worse. This coming from a man.

Answer 4

when you get to school tell him u will meet him after school in the front of the building and while he's waiting u slip out the back and never show up. if that does not work just tell his a** to put a rain coat on!!!

Answer 5

You always have the right to change your mind. Tell him so.

He may be frustrated and angry with you, but it doesn't matter. If he does respond badly towards you, ask yourself: Is he really the k,ind of person you want to sleep with?

Answer 6

Don't let him control you. Tell him that you don't really want to have sex with him. If he calls you a prude, give him the nastiest look you can conjure up.

Answer 7

No means no.Just say no simple.If you are not interested in him it won't matter what he thinks.Also you might get a better response if you posted this question in the correct section.

Answer 8

Just say sorry that Iam not interested and make up a reason for not going ahead.

Answer 9

Be bold.
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Answer 10

Tell him no, and if he keeps on pushing you, shout rape at the top of your voice until he leaves you alone, if teacher ask whats going on tell them bluntly what has happen.