After 3 years me and my girl broke up... not even 3 weeks later she has a new boyfriend. And instead of telling me she sent me a link to his myspace page where he talks about how happy he is to have her in his life and things of that nature.... I cant believe it. yesterday she was calling me crying telling me that she misses me and stuff. and then today this crap... how come people... women have to be so cruel.... I gave her everything. I mean when i met her she was driving a 95 taurus... i just got her a 06 explorer.... gave her everything she wanted... treated her like a queen.. and this is how she repays me? she still wont even say it is her man. Oh and I forgot to say her new man is like 17.. she is 21 and I am 29. And I did not just buy her things. I loved and cherished her... I am hurt because this is how she repays me... but throwing this crap in my face... what kind of stuff is that
2006-12-03 21:42:08 · 11 answers · asked by lost_93710 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regretfully this is the way plenty of people work nowadays...3 years is a long time to be together, so it can be a little difficult to believe that it just up and ended, just like that. What were the circumstances of your breakup in the first place? Maybe if you look at them and analyze them, you may find something you missed?
Not to be a drag or anything, but there is a large difference between 21 and 29...sure, tons of relationships work out fine with massive gaps, but maybe it's got to do with mentallity? A 21 year old mentallity can be incredibly different than that of a 29 yr old.
The hearts of humans can change so easily is this world...and many times, the only reason they change so quickly and easily is because of outside forces.
Have you talked things out with her? Asked her why, and asked for a true answer? Not just some small talk excuse: I mean the actual reasons, the actual feelings. Maybe a talk about these things could help?
It may not help you at all, but I kinda know how you feel, the main differences are I'm a female, and I'm only 19. But the pain of being left by someone I truly feel I loved for nearly 4 years, finally getting to be with him for less than a month...just to find out 3 days later he had someone else who he was madly in love with, is incredible.
I hope you'll be alright, and maybe this can help a tiny bit...either way, good luck!
2006-12-03 22:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Loki-chan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a women, I refuse to accept the word cruel, though there are some but there are still few who are loyal and knows how to respect the people who have been part of there life. As for your ex-girlfriend, maybe its a way for him to take revenge for all the things you've done (that's possible) or maybe she just wants you to leave him alone and move on with your life, and the only way to do it is to hurt you badly. Honestly, loving a girl and showing him you can't live without her is not so OK. They have the tendency to get bored and look for different kind of love. Girls are really unpredictable, they love guys who are caring and sensitive, but not too caring and too sensitive because it "sucks" but it's really hard for us to explain why most girls feel that way. tsk.. tsk.. girls will always be girls.
2006-12-03 21:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww......... I really feel bad for you. That really stinks. We're not all bad like her. There are some real good women. You just haven't found one yet. Pray and God will have you meet one. I thought for a time that all men were scum, but then I finally met a good one and we've been happily married for 10 years. Good luck to you! Don't give up!
2006-12-03 21:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's immature and wants you to know what your missing... which from what I can tell is NOT MUCH! While age doesn't matter maturity level does. She sounds like she should be dating a 17 year old... Move on!! Stop talking to her!!
2006-12-03 21:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by SoMuch2Give 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she wanted you for a sugar daddy, and when she got her fill of you now she wants this young dude. She will get sick of him eventually. I remember dating a guy that was one month younger than me .. and every childish thing he did was even more so because he was younger than me. Believe me, that gets old fast. She is just having fun right now. It's messed up what she did but she wasn't the one for you. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-12-03 21:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cruel man! Cruel! Also she is immature. Take heart man, there are new horizons for you! So take advantage of the moment, meet someone who will love you for yourself! You have a real nice day!
2006-12-03 21:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your pain and most importantly, your loss. She has been gone for a while. We never know they are gone until it actually happens. This is what I have learned: You Cannot Make Someone Love You. Remain as wonderful as you sound. Don't let her allow you to become bitter.
2006-12-03 21:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree woman r cruel but thats her loss why would she want to go out with a child
2006-12-03 21:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie...she's being a cow...she's trying to get you jealous....and yes she's immature...get yourself a girl and send her a link to your space...see how she likes it when the tables are turned...OR tell her fella that she's on the phone whining to you that she misses you....give her a wide berth hun, she does not deserve you...if she calls again tell her to go away..you don't need people like her in your life....she's a phoney
2006-12-03 21:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YO! Didn't I just answer this a few minutes ago ? Adding your ages has no bearing on this.
Stop repeating yourself and GROW UP !!!
2006-12-03 21:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by Maewest 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋