2006-12-03 21:25:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been with him for nearly 5 years and he still says he was drunk at the time,he's sorry and he wants to continue the relationship.
2006-12-03 21:31:02 · update #1
mmm...ur stupid he did it once, (dat u know of)...im sure he'll do it again.
2006-12-03 21:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This hard, cause we love them and they can do this to us. They always have an excuse, "i was drunk", 'it was nothing", how much more are we going to take. Then we are told that they love us and they don't want things to end, "we have been to long together to let it go" but ech person is not the same. And you have been long together for things to just end. There will always be that between the two of you. As long as you know that going back into the relationship you will never forget what he did and you will never trust him. You always have doubts and I don't think that any relationship can last with no trust. But hey, it is your choice just make sure that you do something that makes you happy at the end of the day!
2006-12-03 21:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetie pie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're very strong to give him a second chance! I don't know that I could do the same.
That's pretty much my bottom line rule - if you need to go elsewhere for physical intimacy, there's the door!
I've had bf with alcohol problems, drug problems and money problems. None of those worked out in the long run, but I stuck it out for a bit. Those were 'their' problems, cheating would make it 'my' problem and I've got enough problems on my own!
2006-12-03 21:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not all about another chance but if you REALLY think he is sorry, and think he knows he messed up then do what you think is best for you. Don't forget what he did, but you also can't make him relive it everyday either. If he knows he really screwed up, he will show you in little ways. If he acts the same... Get out! You are probably too good for him anyways but it does take real courage to give things another shot after you were hurt! So stay strong and make sure he knows what he'll lose it he does it again!!!
2006-12-03 21:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by SoMuch2Give 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie..it will take a lot of forgiveness to put his actions totally behind you.If your sure your RELAY in Love with this guy..YES give it a new start.After-all..you already have 5years into this thing.You need to tell him not to trust the women out there.I had this problem before to.There are a lot of women out there that want what you have..No more getting so drunk that he can't take care and be safe when he's out alone...NO MORE.
2006-12-03 21:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never believe in being stereotype, no one in this world has any right to judge or assume that "ones a cheater always a cheater" unless, he/she never commit any mistakes in there life (I doubt) Nobody is perfect, we are far from perfection, you have nothing to lose in giving him another chance. But of course he has to first show his sincerity that he is really sorry for what he had done to you, do you still love him after all that he had done? If you do, what are you waiting for? you have all the right in the world to be happy.
2006-12-03 21:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how did you get to find out that he cheated on you? did he ever asked you about having sex and u refused? okay, if you got the info, from him that he had one night stand, forgive him, and if he at one time asked you and you did not give him, still forgive him, but if it took somebody revealing this to u then forget about him, he doesn't love you and is not worthy trusting. All the best
2006-12-03 21:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by DM FORMULAR 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon! You are completely nut's! Do you know that!? He did it once and got a way with it, when the temptation of twice is looming up in his face! Guess what he'll do? Don't say you weren't told! You are bringing a load of grief down on yourself hon, be prepared!
2006-12-03 21:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you have 5 years invested but now you know he's a cheater. I think you are just too lazy to suck yourself up and move on when you know damn well this guy is not worth another second of your time or energy.
2006-12-03 21:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes...go to the doctor and have yourself checked for STD's. Then change your locks on your apartment, toss his clothes out the window, and have a one night stand with his best friend or his brother.
2006-12-03 21:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by LL 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I agree with Danny. My tip is .. kick him to the curb. If he really loved you he would have thought twice about that one night stand.
2006-12-03 21:28:44 · answer #11 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋