I know a girl who HAD a "sorta boyfriend" (he is in the military so he was never around). She says we are "just friends." She dumped her old boyfriend and I find out she has a NEW boyfriend. YET, she is still fine coming over to my house so I can have sex with her even though we are "just friends." Also, when she comes over she asks me what to wear and stuff like that (she is really insecure). My question is... Why does she ask me what to wear, has sex with me, but then gets another boyfriend and says we are "just friends."
2006-12-03 21:13:19 · 4 answers · asked by MarcusTheMan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does not seem that she really likes me like that. She has said "you are a GREAT guy!" to me and stuff like that, but I have suggested we be more than just sex buddies and she did not seem interested.
Also, she is really worried about appearing slutty. One time when she was drunk (trying to get truth and not a lie) I asked her how many guys she has been with and she said 4. I believe her because this boyfriend was her high school sweetheart.
2006-12-03 21:23:26 · update #1
Insecure. Plain and simple. She isn't happy with just a boyfriend wanting her. Obviously her boyfriend doesn't make her feel as pretty/smart/etc. that she needs to feel to be happy. I hate to say this, but she is basically using you. (which you don't completely get the shaft because you are getting laid!) She wants people to want her. By having sex with you she assumes that you are attracted to her and want to be with her too. This is a quick fix for boosting her esteem... in the long run she is probably ruining it because she'll get caught one day and her "boyfriend" is probably not going to be too nice after that!
2006-12-03 21:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by SoMuch2Give 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you've been sending the wrong signals to her. But you are right, she does have a huge sense of insecurity. Maybe she likes you but you don't give her the impression that you are committed. Or maybe she's just plain slutty and she's making use of you.
2006-12-03 21:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by citrusy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because deep down inside, she's really depressed like me!
2006-12-03 21:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by piercedgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he just wanted to fool around with you for god sake...
2006-12-03 21:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by I think this is useful you see 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋