Are online relationships where u may never meet worth it?

Question

I feel really connected to someone i met online. I live in a small town and the people i meet can be narrow minded. but it is so different with him (he's from another country) anyway is online dating real or am i just kidding myself?

Answer 1

I wish you had not said “Worth it” Are you seeking some sort of gain from your friendships / relationships??? Any true friendship is priceless. Having said that you have to be sensible about the friendships / relationships you get into. There is no sense thinking marriage when the chances are that you may never meet the person or the person maybe already married or not interested in marriage, whatever. This does not mean however, that a friendship with this person is ‘not worth it’ s/he may be countries apart but could be your best source of advice, your shoulder to cry on, your punching bag, etc., etc. Grab every true friendship but dock them in very specific ports in your heart. Your heart itself should be reserved for only the one you will truly love.

Answer 2

I have that same story. It started about two months ago and at first felt real. Now its every excuse in the book not to meet me in person(which seems a lil strange). I'd say just take things slower than you normally would because you have less means of really knowing what the other side is thinking. So what developed was that I invested more emotionally than she did. That's something you can measure a lot better when you can look into a person's eyes. Its also easier to tell if a person is the kind of person you want to invest in if you can see their body-language. Ofcourse ultimately I was the one to chose to move at a faster pace so if that's not your style then maybe it would be worth exploring.

I know I'd never try it again.

Answer 3

You should narrow your friends to those in your area for starters. Then you will need to find a suitable friend to continue an online relationship with. Once you have found an ideal partner, maybe then could you pursue a genuine relationship. You may need to look on different sites to find more people in your area. Good Luck

Answer 4

If you are looking for friendship, its a good idea as we can learn so much about other cultures when we befriend someone from a different country but if you are serious then better beware because there are a lot of factors to be considered before we enter a long time relationship.

Answer 5

It depends, I have seen many marriages happen with online contacts. But even if they do not materialize, they definitely help in broadening your perspective and thinking. You can rely on them for any personal or confidential question or suggestion you may want to a problem you have. But too much attachment is bad and a sheer waste of time I guess. Sometimes it is like addiction. If they bother your daily activity and routine stay away from them.

Answer 6

love is always worth the risk. i did online dating once, she lied about alot of things, it didn't last long, i broke it off. i would do it again in a heartbeat.

make sure you have seen him (pics), talked to him on the phone at the very least, asked him general questions (they kind of stuff you can followup on, school, friends, etc).

another country is a long, long way to go for either of you. there are many people (mostly women trying to meet men) that are from other countries for the purpose of being us citizens. don't want to scare you, just a fact.

Answer 7

Different ppl .. different opinion.. i'd say yes.. they're worth frendship not relationship.. for fun yes.. for lifetime fun no.. online is virtual not real..
i love having frends over the net but wouldnt want to meet them unless and until i'm really interested in meeting one.. does that help?

Answer 8

Hi there,

Sometimes it works and sometimes it wont.

I personally would never go for online relationship. How can you trust the person who is sitting on the opposite side chatting with you. You dont knw the history about that person so its very difficult to judge that person. All you know he might be pretending to be someone who is is not.

Be Careful Girl.
Good Luck & God Bless

Answer 9

wow you said he lives in another coutry so you guys are world's apart huh?

online relationships work when you meet someone through dating sites and he lives in your town.
in your case, however, might not work because of the distance.

are you guys rich enough to fly to each other's place frequently?
if not, how are you supposed to meet him personally?

remember online ppl lie all the time. they show you things which they want you to see.
just because he seems one way on the net doesn't mean he is that way in real life.
you never know who he really is unless you meet him in person

Answer 10

It works for some people and it doesn't work for others. Long distance relationship isn't that easy. Real or kidding? Well depends on the person,coz we can't judge people. All are nt the same.