my son and his freinds who have just started sixth form want a few drinking sessions in my home around christmas i am all for them having a little fun have allowed a few party's in the last few mths some of the lads have got a bit drunk but is it wrong to let them drink at there age the law is really strict on undreage drinking but as a parent i would like in a way to teach my child to drink alcohol and have some respect for it before he reaches 18 years of age when he will be allowed to go out to pubs and clubs at that point i will have no control over what he drinks i would like to think he will have learnt how to use alcohol under my supervision because lets face it at 18 he will not be listening to me am i wrong to let my 16 yera old drink?
2006-12-03 20:31:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not if you are keeping it within your sight!
As long as he realises the effects of too much or binge drinking, then I would say you are doing the right thing
2006-12-03 20:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by nickynoodles33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think your wrong, my daughter just turned 16 too and she also has the occasional wine or beer. I have some hard alcohol in the house (brandy, gin, whiskey etc) and if I am having a drink she would sometimes ask for a sip, fortunately she doesn't like the taste of most alcohol. lol
The only problem is the other kids, their parents might not be as open as yourself, so if I were you I would find out what their views are on the alcohol issue.
2006-12-07 19:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with ya... I think what your planning to do is a good thing... Im 27 and my parents never denied me a drink at appropriate times from the age of 16... It tought me not to think that alcohol was the be all and end all of a good party/night out!! (Not saying that i hammered it at the age of 18 until i got a bit too tipsy one night) in fact i found that by the age of 21 that the 'pub thing' was NEVER my scene...
I must admit i hardly drink now... bar birthdays and christmas...
(OMG how old do i sound in comparison to all these drugged up drunk 27yr olds running around every weekend)
2006-12-04 05:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not rong to let your 16 year old drink but you are in the rong by letting his friends drink there unless he parents give you permission and it doesnt sound like it. Just because you keep a watchful eye on your son and want him to drink at home does not give you the right to inflict your kind of parenting and illigal activiites on your sons friends. You could end up in a lot of trouble if one of those boys parents finds out where their son is drinking and who is supplying the booze. You know your son isnt going to call the cops on you right but you have no idea what other parents think so you had better keep yourself safe and stop the underage drinking parties in your home.
2006-12-04 17:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are wrong letting your son drink, but i'm not sure what i think about the amount you let him drink. If you give him a limit, he is more likely to thank you in later years because he won't have gotten too much damage from the alcohol. I'm not a fan of underage drinking & i personally never drink, but that is because i was always offered a glass with my meals (from an early age) and so it isn't something sacred to me. I'm 18 & i haven't drunk a drop of alcohol since i was 12. I have also seen the effects it has on people. My best friend died in a car crash as she was drinking & driving, & for me that was enough to put me off drinking, Then on Wednesday a friend of mine died in her sleep because she choked on her own vomit from being drunk. It is a difficult subject though & you need to make your own decision about this using everyones advice. But it isn't illegal for him to drink in his own home though.
2006-12-04 04:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking within the home is legal at age 14, and I agree with you that teaching responsible use of alcohol is a good thing, my son had a glass of watered wine with sunday dinner from the age of about 5.
I would check with some of the other mums first though because some people might not like the idea of you allowing their kids access to alcohol.
2006-12-04 04:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you say no he will go and get drunk anyway, maybe at someones house or even in the street. At least in your house you no where he is and how much he is drinking, as for his mates if they go home rat arsed what are their parents goning to say? I started drinking at 15 and it got out of controle by the time i was 16 im 24 now and still drink to excess. Thing is its become so acceptable to get wasted these days.
2006-12-04 04:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Clark Kent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're in the UK or somewhere because in US we've a higher drinking age. And here it's very much illegal to facilitate the intoxication of a minor. Parents have been arrested multiple times for doing exactly what you're suggesting. Now I agree that it's better to have them drink in front of you so you can watch them and make them understand the repercussions and ramifications in a "safe" environment but I would suggest checking your local laws so you don't find yourself in a jail cell. Also I don't think it's right for you to provide alcohol to other minors without their parents permission.
2006-12-04 05:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids can drink at home from the age of 5 upwards but it is illegal for them to purchase alcohol. They can buy wine, beer or cider in a restaurant with a meal at 16 or 17. So no - you're not wrong or doing anything illegal to let your 16 year old drink and I think your attitude towards it is a sensible one.
2006-12-04 04:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your house and you still make the rules. The idea of a drinking session at that age sounds problematic but a few drinks while doing something else should be acceptable.
Make sure that there is at least one grown up or sensible person around.
2006-12-04 04:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Stammerman! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he's your son and as long as you keep things in line. However having other kids round may upset their parents as some may not agree with it, my sister recently went to a party who's parents were there and one of her friends ended up absolutely paralytic and as you can imagine her parents weren't too impressed.
You sound quite responsible so i doubt you would let that happen, but some parents are a bit iffy about things like that!
And at least your offering them a safe environment, instead of a park bench etc etc!
2006-12-04 04:46:00 · answer #11 · answered by Becci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋