I'm the youngest of 4 children by 10 years. My brother recently married a foreign lady(the Wedding took place in her country,so none of us could come). They both now live on UK. My brother falls over himself to try and introduce her to my mother and sisters,but not me.,always coming out with some sort of excuse for not doing so. When I knew Iwas going to be in his area a month in advance,he agreed for me to drop in and see them.However,the day before he said to me:"We may not be there when you come tomorrow as we've arranged to go and watch a Golf Tournament." ...Sure enough,when I arrived at his house,there was nobody in! ...What do you make of this?
2006-12-03 20:20:28 · 16 answers · asked by robspursfan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well he is avoiding seeing you, anyone can see that from your question, the reason is why? Ask your family, im sure one of them will know or maybe give you an idea why.
You have a right to be offended if he acting this way without giving you an explanation. If he is going to be this way with you, I would not bother contacting him, is he worth it?
2006-12-03 20:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hiding said you "can't pick your relatives".
But I would be equally offended, especially as you had arranged with them well in advance about your intentions to visit. I would not get into an argument with him over this though.
But I would most certainly say that "It was very disappointing that you chose a golf tournament over your family. Especially since you were keen for me to visit earlier, when I had notified you of my travel arrangements". Leave the rest up to him, and see what he has to say. I would also point out it was very poor etiquette to not be there.
I also would be very wary of ever going to visit them again.
I am sorry for not being able to give you a better answer. Good luck!
2006-12-04 06:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Georgie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably the cutest one of the lot and also the sexiest!
Maybe he's scared that she'll run off with you.
You should sit him down and ask him.
Talk things through.
Maybe you did something in the past and he never quite forgave you.
You have to sort this out soon.
Hope i could be of some help.
2006-12-04 11:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your brother doesn't like you very much! Have you tried talking to him about it?
I had a similar thing with a friend of mine who I'd known for 20 years, he got wed abroad, so I couldn't attend, and then seemed to be avoiding me when they got back. I spoke to him about it, and he was just worried that I'd relay a few embarrassing stories about our youth (There were plenty!) to his new bride. We're all good friends now.
Speak to him about it, it's the only way you'll find out.
2006-12-04 04:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is simply jealous of you and his new wife is about your age which means that he is scared that if he introduces her to you she may well take a fancy you leaving him hanging dry.
What you do is wait for him to go work one day, then go and knock on the door. If a woman opens the door then you can presume that this is your sister-in-law then you charm your way intp her knickers so get your own back on your brother who seems to be ashamed of you.
2006-12-04 09:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would do a couple of things'
1) stop chasing your tail-he is not worth the trouble
2) accept that you can't pick your relatives
3) accept that you know something about him that he doesn't want resurfacing now
4) you must have qualities that he is unable to duplicate- he is envious
5) you may have embaeassed him in the past- any chance of this?
2006-12-04 04:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur not the only one mate. i`m the youngest in my family. i have 2 brothers and 2 sisters but i`m the forgotten one and yes i take offence too
2006-12-04 08:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is a stunning lady and your brother is worried that she might fancy you instead. Are they actually married and she is only with him to get into the country?
Keep trying and it will all work out right in the end.
2006-12-04 04:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps you need to delve into the past and see if you have possibly done something to upset him.
The phrase "foreign lady" speaks volumes. Maybe your brother is seeking to protect his wife from you?
2006-12-04 04:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i don't know but i think he's being mean by treating you this way, send him a text and ask him why he's avoiding you or just turn up unannounced and have it out with him, i would be offended too....whats he got to hide? maybe he was home but he was not answering the door....i would find out why he's being this way, i would not tolerate it,
2006-12-04 05:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋