and show no intrest in knowing each other, we'd like this to change any suggestions?
2006-12-03 20:06:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
invite them all over for Christmas. they are not showing an interest because you and your wife are not. when the two of you got married it was you that joined these two families together.so its up to the two of you to have them get together and get to know each other. invite them all over Christmas eve for a few hours.
2006-12-03 23:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOn't know each other as in, have never met? Or don't get together?
If they've never met, and it's important to you, then arrange it so they do.
Plan a holiday party or family reunion. Or have a family party for renewal of your vows or some other family occasion.
If it's they don't get together, or don't get along, then you may just have to learn to live with that. You can't make people get along.
Also, ,most people have two kinds of family. There is the one we are born into, and then there is the family you choose as you go along. For me, The family I've chosen has been there for me much more since I left home than the one I was born into. So if the family you grew up in doesn't want to make the effort to get together, then start building that circle of friends to the point where it's like family. Maybe I have a different perspective since we are military and usually live several hundred miles from any biological family members.
I hope it works out for you...
2006-12-04 04:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by ntm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know something, this is what I learned the hard way, YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE! If these two families has no interest in getting to know each other, then leave them alone. If you do make it happen, and they start getting to know each other, JUST BECAUSE YOU WANTED IT, AND THEY DONE IT TO JUST APPEASE YOU, I don't think you will like the results. Ususally, when we try to change people to what we want, we end up not liking what we get; or we find something else to change. This is sometimes due to the fact, we don't want to look at ourselves and find out what there is about ourselves that we are looking for.
My suggestion, leave it alone! Besides, why are you two so interested in them getting to know each other? Sure it would be nice for family gatherings, if they clicked; and could actually get along. But can you imagine if the two families hated being around each other, and just agreed to make you two happy? Would that be a "nice family gathering?" Think about the reasons "why" these two families may not have any interest in getting to know each other? Do they come from different economical backgrounds? different religions? different generations? different cultures? different geographical areas that may have different etiquette (like the south versus the north)? Talk to each family and find out the "why" before you leap without counting the cost!
2006-12-04 04:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each of you arrange a family picnic.
She invites all her family to the park and you invite yours.
Tell them that you think it would be nice to have a family reunion. Give them a month or so notice.Ask everybody to bring a dish with them that way there will be plenty of food. You supply the plates, cups, games Etc. Etc... Then have fun...
2006-12-04 04:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by mistique1818 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful what you wish for sometimes having other parties stick there nose into your business can really mess up a marriage. if you dont' think this is the case. I guess with the holidays coming you could have a xmas party dinner and invite them over and that would be a start of getting to know them
\Good luck
2006-12-04 04:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be the norm with heaps of families but
why don't you have a dinner party or a B- B -Q & invite them all to it & try to have turns at each others place to have a dinner etc say once a month
2006-12-04 04:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can do much about it, if neither family has any interest.
My parents have never been interested in getting know my husband's parents, and after three years they've only ever hung out once (at the wedding). It's just the sort of thing where they have to do it themselves if they want to become friends. You can try to get them together but it might just be awkward...
2006-12-04 04:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bwilkerson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋