Me(16) and my boyfriend(17) were in my room having sex because we thought my parents were out of town, but they came home early to surprise me but, my Mom ended up walking in on me and my boyfriend. She didn't get pissed or anything but her and my Dad haven't talked to me that much for the past couple of days. What should I do ?
2006-12-03 19:46:04 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will just say I am sorry she had to see that and it won't happen again. (at our house)
2006-12-04 06:48:30 · update #1
you need to talk to them about it. yes it is going to be uncomfortable for all involved but you need to be open with them. Reassure them that you are using protection (if your not you need to start) I am not going to tell you to stop having sex because I would be a hypocrite. You know whats right and wrong. If you are adult enough to be having sex you are adult enough to talk to your parents about sex. They are probably more upset about you deciding to have sex at such a young age rather than walking in you. I know that when I was 16 and my parents found out thats what they were more upset about. I did learn though that as you get older it becomes a lot easier to talk to your mom ( well at least mine) about your sexual life. If you ever feel like you cant talk to your parents you need to find someone you can talk to about it.
2006-12-03 19:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by kort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope he was wearing a condom...:-)
You are way too young honey. When I was 16 I did not know how the other's private looked. I learned it at school, curious - but never looked. Well, it was then and this is now.
Your parents are not talking because:
a) They are shocked for words.
b) They realized that their 'little girl' has grown up.
But, whatever it is, they should not have walked in on you. That's their fault. They realize that now and they will never do that again, I bet. That does not mean you have the license to bring boys in and have sex. Just be careful next time.
Forget it ever happened. Move on. You do not owe them an explanation. Silence is golden. You both know now what to do next time. Just say nothing.
If, at a later time it ever comes up just apologize. That will be the end of it.
2006-12-03 19:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh! aint u too young to have sex. I dont know why these days ppl ( specially young ones) rush into sex. Well, that was a wrong action that u did. Anyway.... talk to ur mom n try to explain how sorry u r and that ur grown up now ( though u arent grown up). Am sure she will understand she is just in shock to catch some guy bumping in and out from her baby girl's little hole. Am sure she thought that it was just u and her that have ever seen or tounced it. Poor parents!
Next time think before u react think through ur head not ur heart. Our hearts misleads us sometimes.
2006-12-03 20:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom was probably just shocked that you were having sex at such a young age. your mom probably didnt get pissed because she didnt know what to say. she must've trusted you a lot and when she found out that you did something wrong, she was too shocked to react or say anything.they porbably came home early to be with you and instead, you surprised them! you should try talking to your mom and dad and try apologizing, you are still a little young for sex. How would you feel if you walked in on your underaged daughter having sex with her boyfriend just cos she knew you werent going to be in town to stop her???
2006-12-03 21:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by ishida25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a little more time because that is heartbreaking for a parent to know their baby is having sex and much harder to see it. If she doesn't come to you in a few more days then go to her because she probably doesn't know what to say to you. It is a difficult situation. You don't even have to talk about the situation at hand. Just break the ice with something else and then maybe that will come up. If they don't want to talk about it then you don't bring it up. Give it time and hopefully one day you guys can sits back a laugh about it.
2006-12-03 19:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till time will pass. it can happen and having sex is very much normal ur age. u just give them the time to get over the "shock" not bcs it was u but bcs ur mom saw something that she probably prefers not to see as much as u prefer not to do it to ur parents... it's a little bit embracing but it will pass. next time, make sure u luck the door :)
2006-12-03 19:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♥sweetie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your mum when it is just the two of you and just talk to her. Your mum is probably still in shock that her little baby girl is having sex.
And when you talk to your mum make sure you listen to what she has to say as mums are very wise.
2006-12-03 19:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by gundychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably talk with your mom first about it. I bet your dad is porbably more upset, but I might be wrong.
Just say your sorry she saw what she saw and see what she says after that.
2006-12-03 19:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by program dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look, all parents have to go through a phrase where they come to grips with the fact that their kids are growing up. they'll get over it. they're just remembering you as a 12 year old and all that s*it.
2006-12-03 19:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they must be mad at you..when they're sitting on the couch, try asking and talking to them..Im sure they would let you know why..Don't get mad when they scold you..U're in a wrong too..Just remember to stay clam as possible..Throw away the anger far from you..Im sure ur problem will solve..
Hope ur parents talk to u again..
2006-12-03 19:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋