I want my child to succeed.He is so smart and bright....but converting to elementary school with one class to jr high 6-7 classes has been so stressful.What are some tips/guidelines for a child to succeed.Any parents out there have similar situation....its gotten to the point where i might have to sit in his classroom and see what the heck is goin on?
2006-12-03 19:25:57 · 12 answers · asked by bonnyfide2000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think you have to be careful that you don't push your son too much. If you do you may achieve the opposite effect and he doesn't study or concentrate at school.
More important. Why are you being so pushy about this? It is important to get a good education, but you need to see the difference between what you want and what is good for your son.
If you want your child to succeed, let him take credit for it, let him know you believe he can do it, check in on his progress, and show interest, but don't control him. Most important, listen to him, don't make him do something just because you wanted to do it, and couldn't. Don't make him be a doctor, if he really wants to be a dancer.
2006-12-03 19:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sally E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, im in 8th grade, this is my last year in Jr. High. I know for a fact that middle school can be very stressful on teens. And if you set goal FOR your son, it adds stress. I mean, he has all the stress of more teachers, locker combinations, and ALOT more homework. If nessesarry call his teachers, and ask how he's doin, or let him sign up for a club or sport, but whatever you do, dont come to his school, and sit in his classes with him, its really emmbarrasing. Other kids WILL tease him, which adds stress.
Ask him if he's having troubles, or do what my dad did to me; take him out (fishing, camping, playin sports, or a sports game) and while you and him are bonding a lil bit, just kinda casually bring up the subject, he is more likely to talk when you & him are having fun, than when your sitting at home watching TV. Just ask. You will get frusterated, so will he. Thats part of being a parent, and a kid.
Good Luck! :)
2006-12-04 06:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping in touch with his teachers is the best way to help him--find out how he's doing schoolwise, not only with the curriculum (which, I think you already know this), but, intersocially, as well. Jr High (or, in some cases, middle school) is stressful enough on kids with trying new things, acting more socially with each other, and trying to learn important life skills (i.e. time management with respect to class changes/locations)--sitting in class may make a tense situation worse! Ask for a parent-teacher consultation if this continues--you need to keep up with his school life. If, however, his grades aren't suffering any--encourage him to continue the study habits that seem to work the best, and, on occasion, double-check his work, both at home and with the teachers. In short--the teachers are the key to this situation. Work with them, and with him--it should work out. Good luck!
2006-12-03 20:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an important time in your child's life and a stressful time in your life. The usual advice on homework. Please allow a little more time for homework as there is more of it. Set up parent teacher conferences as needed. You will not be able to sit down with all his teachers at once but you can sit down with each of them on different days. Get involved in the school. Join the PTA. Volunteer to help at the school. You will learn a lot about what goes on that way. I know it is frustrating to not know as much as you used to about your sons activities but it is a part of him growing up. High school is just around the corner and you will know even less. You have taught your child the things he needs to know to succeed and this is what will happen. Many children struggle at first in this new situation but after a short time they like being treated like older kids and they get it about doing more on their own. Relax mom it will be okay and it is an exciting time in your child's life.
2006-12-03 23:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay in contact with his teachers and try not to add to much stress to him at home let him get used to jr high. Give him the guidelines of what you expect and follow through with them just because he is in jr high doesn't mean he needs a bunch more responsibilty gradual is the key
2006-12-04 11:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter just went into middle school in Sept. and she didn't like the idea of having 6 classes. The first month was stressful for her. She had to deal with having 2 lockers (one for P.E. and the other for books). My daughter gets upset quickly and I thought her dad was going to loose it with her. I had to pull her and her dad aside and have a talk with her. I told her that she would end up liking middle school because she didn't have just one teacher. Yes she was adjusting but going to middle school had it's advantages. She was going to meet new people and have a whole set of different teachers. She would have a locker to put her books. I asked her to give it a month and to come back to me and see how she felt. I want to tell you that at the end of her first quater there she got 5 A's and 1 B. She also felt she needed a little extra help in the math department and she goes in early on Tuesday and Thursday's a whole hour early to math village. I just received a letter from the Superintendent of our district informing me that my daughter is on his Honor Roll because she achieved a GPA of 3.83.
Talk to your child and let them know that we have all gone through Jr. High/Middle School. It will take them time to adjust but spin the positive. My daughter is thriving right now. I will tell you she pulled it together and is working really hard. She loves middle school. Try to go to Back to School night and Open House this will give you a better feel for what your child is going through. When I went to Back to School night it took me back to my school years and the bell schedule that they have. It was good to see who her teachers were and what there "plan" for the year was.
Good luck to you and your child.
2006-12-04 06:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Denise G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 16:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sitting in his class room is the last thing you want to do. that will only embarrass him.talk to him and if he wont talk, call the school and speak with his teachers.my son just went into Jr. high but he has adjusted well.see if your son would like to get involved in some kind of after school things.don't pressure your son, he will adjust on his own.maybe he is being bullied, as i said speak to his teachers maybe even set up with a guidance councilor to speak to him.ask that he not be told that you set this up, because if he new you set it up would only upset him.
2006-12-04 00:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind your son that its really not that different than elementary. they have just broken up the lessons for the classes to be more educational and in some schools they have a study period if his school does then he needs to ask a teacher to help him with what hes having trouble with that's what they are for.
2006-12-07 05:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by lola1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know your concerned...but if you "sit" in the classroom, that will surely aggravate the situation, you will embarrass the heck out of him.....I agree, to stay in contact with his teachers, they deal with this probably on a way larger scale, your son isn't the only one, and I am sure they could have some useful tips for you.....
2006-12-03 19:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋