My friend called me today upset because she had gotten into an argument with her mother over something really petty. Her mother was upset with her over the incident and wound up calling her all kinds of b*itches and h*es!
I was shocked because my mother would never use such language, especially not talking to me, her only child. I was just wondering if anyone else out here has a mother that talks to them like that.
By the way my friend is 27 years old and this is not the first time I have heard her mother put down one of her children like this.
2006-12-03 19:01:15 · 12 answers · asked by Cheryl J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry for your friend, it's the worst feeling in the world to have your mother verbally abuse you, you would rather be hit. I wish I had a could answer for your friend, I don't, but I know how it feels, it would be nice of you to just let her vent , tell you how bad it feels, just knowing friends care, and sympathize, does help, I wish there was more you could do for your friend, but just listening does help her. Thank you for caring a bout her, you are kind , this helps, more than you could know.
2006-12-03 19:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as sad as this sounds but yes, my mother has called me all types of names before. i don't know if it's a cultural thing... my mom is from a lower socio-economic status. alwyas has been. usually when she gets upset, she would start calling names. then she would get even more personal and throw past mistakes back in my face.
i know it sounds unbelieveable... but there really are people who would say such hurtful things to their kids. i'm not trying to justify their behavior... but as a child growing up in that kind of environment, over time you become desensitized to it. it's a bad thing... but for some people, it's just part of everyday life.
2006-12-04 03:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some moms are not perfect. My mother never cursed me out, but she has said hurtful things and did things that were hurtful.
I choose to put a distance between her and me because growing up with her being so controlling it is easy for her to manipulate situations that affect me.
You friend needs to accept she is an adult, she can tell her mom, if you can't speak to me respectfully then you don't need to speak to me at all.
2006-12-04 03:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by P&B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad situation, for both you and your friend....Most importantly, your friend does not deserve to be treated with verbal violence by anyone, let alone her mother, let alone in front of her children by her mother !
As her friend, it will be important for you to really acknowledge that this is a difficult situation and that the feelings your friend has about it are completely OK. Also, try to help your friend see she is worth a higher quality of life than this by explaining that she has options.
Most of the time, people feel like they are stuck and have no options. Really, they have options, they just dont like them...
As a result of your friends mothers verbal violence behavior, she is emotionally abusing her daughter and her grandchildren. She is role modeling for the children, how to treat family, children, parents, and overall emotional presentation information.
This behavior is how families pass on "behavioral and psychological issues" from generation to generation...
Your friend has an obligation to protect her children from abuse, verbal and physical. Your friend also has an obligation to protect herself.
Its important that you remain a friend and not get involved with your friends mom. Help your friend by acknowledging her situation and listening to her feelings. Help your friend by looking at every option available to her and her children, and let her make the choice.
Best of luck, your friend is lucky to have you !
2006-12-04 03:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother's can be unpredictable but realize she is your Mother and you gotta take in the good with the bad. As for me I always get cussed out by mine and I be damned if I ever talk back to her. That's your momma and she can get away with that.
2006-12-04 06:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! haha especially through my rough teenage years, and i was always told it was totally normal, but everything will be fine, as long as your friend keeps her cool while mama is yellin she'll start to realize her words are hurtful and it will rip her apart.
2006-12-04 03:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother used to insult me and give me names affront of people, she was also hitting me. took me long time to get over it. now im as far as i could go from her. i have my own family and im being very careful not to ever hurt my kids the way she have hurt me. we are actually in good relationship now, but deep inside, i still can't understand her.
2006-12-04 03:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♥sweetie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was about 11 years old my mom got mad at me probably about not doing some chore... she started throwing stuff at me and calling me b*tch and told me to go out side on the porch and just jump up and down........ and yeah i am serious
2006-12-04 05:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cursed no!but she told me some unexpected words
2006-12-04 03:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by reginuta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww...ask her not to take it too hard.
mums do stuff like that.i guess shell understand when she becomes a mum too...for some reason they tend to take it out too harshly on thier daughters..
i do hope things get better..wish her luck on my behalf :)
2006-12-04 03:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by bianca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋