2006-12-03 19:00:46 · 20 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummmmm, which one to choose? Try solving the problem this way, make a list for each guy on a separate piece of paper with these headings: Like and Dislike, then start writing under those two headings. What do you like about this guy, What do you hate about this guy. When you're done with both lists, read them carefully. Try to be fair about what you're putting down for instance if #1 Cares, is nice to be with, doesn't smoke, respects you, treats you like a lady then put it in the LIKE side. If he belches, or has unruly friends,embarrases you, hits you, or treats you like a dog, put it down in the Dislike side. Do the same for Guy #2. One of these two is going to come out way ahead of the other. You might be surprised about what you see in those two lists. I know that if #2 guy had more dislikes, I sure wouldn't be thinking about being with him. I also can't see you staying or even being with someone who "doesn't" care. If I chose that guy, I would be downgrading myself, and that's pretty low self-esteem. I can guarantee that if you choose the guy who doesn't care, your life will be miserable and you'll be lost in the shuffle. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who is caring, and respectful of you. A guy who will make you feel proud that your his girl, and treats you like the lady I assume you are. I know I would. I've been in this boat once, and never again. I'm now married to a very loving, caring man, who stands beside me 100%. That's what you should want in your life too, and that my dear lady is what Love is built on.
2006-12-03 19:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jayngelcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you want the the second guy who is not very caring is indicative of your desires. If you really wanted a good relationship, then you would have picked the first guy. The second guy seems to me, and I am operating from experience, is exciting or unconventional from the first one. It seems to me, by your decision making tells me that you are not ready or mature enough for a decent relationship. Then go for the second guy if you wish but he isn't going to provide the emotional response that you would need in a healthy relationship and will instead feel that he doesn't listen to you or responds that right way. You will then feel neglected and soon the relationship will end. So, go for the second guy. Give it a try. Cheers.
2006-12-03 19:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Drockable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask 'which one should you chose'. Well, love is generally not a choice - it is something so much more deeper. Something that should be developed over time.
But I do know what you are talking about - that feeling you get when you first lay eyes on someone that no matter how awful they are to us, we will, in a lot of cases, risk our lives and the lives of others to keep that feeling. But this is not love but a physical attraction that should be examined. In my opinion, it seems self-destructive since you say that the one you want is the one who is 'not caring'.
But what do I know - not much.
The question is not which one you should chose but will you make the right choice.
God Bless!
2006-12-03 19:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by Goodmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U luv the 2nd one but do you know if any of the guy luvs u???
what do both of the guys think about u is imp and always listen to your heart coz this is very imp decision of ur life. I personally think u should choose 1st one who is caring and he will take good care of u in future. Dont marry whom u luv but marry the person who luvs u most.
Take Care. All the best.
God bless u.
2006-12-03 20:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by pearly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love will sustain a relationship only so long because it cannot carry another person, so matter how much you wish them to be caring.
Likewise, a caring person will never be the one for you unless you reciprocate the feelings (feel the same way)... I would say keep both as friends, and keep your eye out for love - it's when you BOTH care, and YOU BOTH give as much as the other.
2006-12-03 19:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me that women looking for something new in their love life are attracted to as=holes. Don't be one of those women.
But when these two guys find out that you're seeing them both, they'll dump you quicker than a flying bullet.
2006-12-03 19:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in front of d 2nd guy u act as if u love d 1st one so much for 5 -6days then u will see that d 2nd may like u and be jelus of d ist one
2006-12-03 19:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by sandeep s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what u prefer a caring man or a not so caring man. It's all up 2 u?
2006-12-03 19:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by blo247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both the guys should dump you cause you are the one who is having 2 boyfriends.
2006-12-03 19:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this always happen with girls but be strong and choose the first one for better life & future if you want to have a respectful life & want to live more with loved ones
2006-12-03 20:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by richi_richer2007007007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋