"Money and status don’t change the way I feel about myself. I could be successful in life, but I don’t have any motivation. I want to support a family someday, but my brain goes dead at the thought of doing something technical. Nothing ever interests me. I feel very restless. I’m very passionate about certain things but not to where I can make money off it. I have trouble making friends because I hate expendable friendships and that seems to be all most people want from me. I mean, it feels really empty to care about your friends only to have them disappear. I can’t imagine a psychologist saying any magic words to better my depression. I really do want a family someday, but I’m too self-centered to work a job that bores the life out of me. I’d rather have no family than be a bad parent."
2006-12-03 18:55:53 · 10 answers · asked by poke 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would say, "Wow, you have a future as a writer. If you don't want to do any writing now, at least keep the recorder on when you talk so I can transcribe it, print it and sell it."
You got a smart kid.
2006-12-04 00:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and have a very long talk with him/her about life and that what you want to do doesn't always just jump out at you like a sore thumb. Sometimes you don't know what you want, and the fact that your son/daughter certainly knows himself well enough to know these things, is a good thing. Teenagers are full of uncertainty and unknowing. They're facing the world ahead, and one that is in tune with things sees that the world isn't all butterflies and kisses.. but what you have to tell him/her is that he/she can make the best of what he/she has.. and try to be the best at whatever they chose, no matter what they chose.. and sometimes, any friendship (even an expendable one) can be a good thing while it lasts.
2006-12-04 07:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first questions is how old is your child? second of all your child may just be trying to find themselves. When your in your late teens to your early twenties, tryiing to define who you are can be a hard and trivial time. Give them healthy outlets. Dont repress what he is saying, because they're is saying what he has witness or heard. A lot of what they're saying is true to a point. Discover what their interests are and make sure that the communication is open. That's where many things go wrong. Someone says something you dont like and you stop being interested. that is when life takes a turn for the worse.
2006-12-04 12:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by champagne b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's deep but if the kid states they rather have no family than be a bad parent you have to respect that . What else is the child going through or has gone through to feel that way.
2006-12-04 03:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wonder if you notice that most of the things your son/daughter talks about here is the percieved image they are portraying as being 'who they are' and not actually identifying with their inner self? does that make sense? they mention things like career, money and status - and how it doesn't interest them, and this is seen by your teenager as all there is to them.
it sounds like they need help in identifying who they are as a person, not the material goods they have or image it helps them to portray. it's like they are depressed about their lost self.
i think they need to be involved with the things that interests them (as mentioned in your question) regardless of its money making opertunities. perhaps money is made too much of an importance in the family?
often getting involved in such things as volunteer work and helping others can give a sense of worth and importance in the world.
talk to your teenager as much as possible, about their feelings, needs, wishes, fears etc, let them know you are there for them and that you believe in them and think they are important and capable.
finally, do incourage them to see a psychologist.
all the best.
2006-12-04 09:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh! Oooh! I know what's wrong!
He's spoiled!
If he wants good things to come to him, but can't be bothered to make them happen, that is likely because that is what he has experienced in life. He said it, himself: "I'm too self-centered to (etc., etc.)".
My solution, at this late date, would be to provide him with $1,000 seed money and a Unibomber shack in the hills. He'll find motivation, and quickly!
2006-12-04 09:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a different depression medicine. They are depressed and if they are taking something, its not working. Keep trying until something works. And take him/her to a councellor anyways. Just because he/she doesn't think it will help is no reason to not go. Take him/her and see if it helps.
2006-12-04 03:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all have things we're good at that we may not know that we are good at... send the teenager for a skills level test and find out what they'd be good at... for such a deep thinker i agree with the first post
2006-12-04 03:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by S4Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it sounds like me and I'm NOT depressed. I just lack motivation.
2006-12-04 03:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell them they need to go to college to become a psycologist.
2006-12-04 02:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋