I want to know why some people need to spend so much money on weddings,rings,and receptions..its ridiculous?

Question

I think that I love you I want to marry you, you should be enough.

Answer 1

i feel the same way. for my wedding i got a preacher (free) and went to walmart and got a cheap 1 layer cake, and a ham and turkey party platter. a hand me down dress, and went to the dollar tree and bought plates, forks.......ect... and it couldnt have been more perfect!

Answer 2

I completely agree with you!

However, I believe it is important to throw a good party. This is a huge celebration after all! But that just means that a bride shouldn't cut costs to the point of neglecting things that make a good party (like alcohol, for example; a full open bar isn't necessary, but at least complimentary beer and wine should be served, or champagne for a cake & champagne reception).

But there are many brides who see their wedding day as their princess day, the biggest day of their whole lives, and the most important day EVER. They will spare no expense to have the wedding of their dreams. Some even take out loans!

Unfortuantely, many of these brides don't care about anything, or anyone, but their wedding. They tend to become bridezillas who don't care about being rude or nasty. They usually say things like "It's MY wedding, I'll do what I want!"

But I also think that if you have the money to spend, sure why not spend it? But if you don't, then you need to plan a different type of wedding. No one will care if they attend a formal black-tie reception at a country club, a cake & champagne reception, or a buffet in a backyard, so long as they have FUN!

Answer 3

You can't take it with you when you go.So if you want to burn some on a wedding why not? We are having a 100 people at our wedding but, we haven't blown the bank by any account. We wanted to see family and spend time with them as everyone has gone their separate ways having a wedding ceremony and reception is a nice way to visit. (By the way before you ask a question like that think of how much it costs to have a turkey dinner for your family at Christmas or any other family event are these celebrations all ridiculous too?)Special times cost money (everything does ) no one says you have to do it so why judge people who want Judging others is ridiculous!

Answer 4

We certainly didn't. I didn't get/want an engagement ring (not least because I have a real issue with diamonds). Our wedding bands are plain gold bands, nice but surprisingly inexpensive. I actually got my dress at JC Penny (honest, it was nice).

We had a very small wedding, with the reception and service at the same place (a beautiful historic hotel). It was just a kind of cocktail hour followed by a dinner, no dancing. We had a flutist and classical guitarist for the service and cocktails, and kept the guitarist for dinner. It was very nice.

The hotel catering and facilities were not cheap even for our really small group, but they turned out to be perfect. I wanted something even simpler but was very happy with what we wound up doing. My mother was skeptical but when she saw everything even she approved. Everyone loved it, and it really fit us.

I think a wedding is an important public ritual and there should be some kind of recognition that it's something special--and it should involve all your friends and family--but the people who think marriage is all about the wedding invariably wind up unhappy.

Answer 5

You are correct to say that "I love you I want to marry you". However, wedding is a once in a life time affair. Generally people do not forget their wedding event thus if one can afford that little extra I don't see why not!

Answer 6

spending too much for a wedding is really a ridiculous thing but couldn't blame people doing so because it is just a once in a lifetime chance (well...divorce is not allowed here in the philippines so no choice) and hopefully, they will truly cherish the precious wedding they had.

Answer 7

the wedding itself is a memory that should last forever,
the reception is just one of many parties to celibrate, why not make it a memory.
you are not being greedy when you treat friends to an unforgettable time.
rings?
that's materialistic just to flaunt affluence,
they say a diamond lasts forever, but they can get lost down the drain, smooshed or crushed in the garbage disposal...
no, i would hold back on the ring, besides, you can always upgrade the ring on the anniversaries, 5 yr, 10 yr, 11 yr

Answer 8

those who have they will and those who don't have they will not.
this cannot be stopped as this is the life's most beautiful occasion, once for all.
weddings- many people have thier livelihood on it.
rings- if not on marriages, when will gold be sold.
receptions- from bridegroom's side he also has moral responsibility to invite his friends etc, and it becomes obvious when the marriage takes place in some other state.
ok dear.
and moreover, when it becomes a social gathering many would come to know so and so is married, which helps in taking care of thier family name.

Answer 9

I think spending too much money above the budget is rediculous but I believe marriage is still something you put your time and money because for me it still remains special once in a life-time event for a woman and man (unless you get married multiple times in your life). I mean when I get old, I want to see wonderful pictures of my marriage and wonderful memories about it.

Answer 10

I think a wedding in good taste and an enjoyable wedding is possible for a reasonable amount, theres no need for these $100 000 weddings, its really pathetic, If you want to throw your cash away rather make a donation to charity instead of some gay wedding planner!!

Answer 11

Some people are more materialistic than others. My wedding was done at the justice of peace, no reception. It kinda sucked, but it didn't really matter.