Two possible fathers. I want to give the baby up for adoption, but one of the possible fathers, if it is his, wants to keep the baby. I believe the father has just as mush say in the decision as I do. So what do I do? I have nothing. No place to live, no money, etc. I cannot give the baby up for adoption if it is one of the fathers baby. I hafe been honest to father. The other possible father wants nothing to do with me or baby. What should I do, without betraying the possible father who wants to keep the baby if it is his baby?
2006-12-03 18:40:27 · 16 answers · asked by Kk 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If one wants the baby, do paternity test to find out if it's his. If it is give it to him, if you try to five it up for adoption, you will find yourself in a court battle. If it isn't and the other father doesn't want it give it up for adoption.
2006-12-04 02:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find out that the father is the one who wants to keep the baby, you have to keep it. Let the father be involved if he wants to. You can go on welfare or get some kind of financial help, you can get WIC, food stamps etc. You can file child support against him too. But if it turns out he is not the father and you decide to give the baby up, just make sure your are certain about your decision, and know that there are many ways that you can get help if you decide to keep the baby, you can do it!
2006-12-03 18:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by xoxo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to decide if you are ready to take care of another human being...You can have the child in 3 months from now and try to take care of he/she. Talk to the possible father and have a heart to heart... ** If you feel as though you cannot take care of your child, then PLEASE put it under an adoption clinic because you know you want him/her to have a good life... Don't depend on any "male" in your life right now, because you might be disappointed in the end. This might sound bad, but if the 'possible' father has money, then make sure to have him Sign that he is the babies father, because men lie and you just want your child to be healthy and have a bright future! Add Details soo we can understand more of what the situation is in your life right now... please.
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2006-12-03 21:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by J RO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry the pregnancy, deliver the child, and surrender him/her to the state or provincial guardian for children. But for now, get in-touch with a social worker (your doctor or hospital can connect you), and discuss options. The fatherhood candidates will be required to have proof of parenthood (ie: DNA testing).
If the one who wants to keep the child IS the father, no problem, you sign your child away to him. If the one who wants to keep the child IS NOT the biological father, he may apply to adopt said child.
If the biological (proven) father has no interest in keeping the child, then you and he BOTH sign off that you are surrendering the child for adoption.
You are wise enough to know that you do not have the resources to raise the child. Please also be wise enough to know that if you were to choose abortion, you would be haunted for the rest of your life, by thoughts of..... "what if".... or remembering the birthdates, etc, etc. I know too many women who are living with regrets of abortion.
Choose adoption - Choose Life!
2006-12-03 18:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well life is hard but don't give it up or get rid of it the only way to go is to find out with one of the men that love you and ask them if thay love you and will thay be there for you and the baby and if there hearts are in it thay will not give a **** who the father is and should help you out in the most best time in your life you need to know you are doing the right for your self by haveing this baby if you have family tell them you will need there help as well i hope you find what you need to make up your mind of what your doing for your self because stress is the last thing you need right now all the best hope i help in some way and keeps your head up
2006-12-03 19:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by lozza25au 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father wants to be involved in the baby's life then there isn't much you can do. It is his right. If you can't support the baby then consider child support or giving the father full custody if he is capable of caring for the child.
2006-12-03 18:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a women and step up to the plate..If it turns out the father wants to keep it then figure it out with him...like give the baby to him untill you get on your feet..Im telling you once you look into that babys you will not want to let go!!
2006-12-03 18:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st get a paternity test. if its the father who isnt a part of it then i say do what you feel most comfortably doing, which seems like adoption. if its the man who doesnt want you to give the baby up for adoption see if he is willing to take custody of the baby and raise it.
2006-12-03 18:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by NYC Princess of Contradictions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do a lab test. If its costly, here in Male we can do iut for free of charge. Then once the father is verified, hand him over the baby. If he refuses you, you can come back to Male where we will provide you safe shelter untill you find a job.
2006-12-03 20:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 16:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋