if you woman have? how did you deal with a mommy/son dysfunctional relationship i cant do this no more .?

Question

im planning my leave without telling my boyfriend as he should have known by now anyway. i have never seen,dealt with so much chaos in my life. i love my ex mother-inlaw we still talk and go out to eat ect. i did not know until it was a boyfriend/girlfriend situation or id never had got involved. this son/mom calls each other names,argue,gossip and then stick up for each other. her the more-so. she has chased all his former woman away and i can now see why. but he is as much to blame. he has to please mom if he does not she may not $$ help him. and she should considering she had her own place and we helped her. he moved out and let her move in?? now if she gets mad like always she says im not helping with the bills. she should. there is rent,utilities.groceries ect. she has a check as well as everyone else. she helps herself to my personal things and we talked and he dont care. she had my clothes on so i told her id wear hers. she sure took them off and id never wear hers. she screams

and yells. she has me so angered i want out for peace of mind so i dont lose mine. she has held me in a room by blocking herself in the doorway one day when i was gonna leave. she talks about everyone. he use to do this but, hes changing. i just dont have nomore patients to wait. the nagging woman will never stop and i cant be second best or his mommy as ive been told. and i will never date a man who lives with a mother ever again. for fear this may be the case. these people totally decieved me and once into the relationship i then seen the red flags. he can be so nice. he will cook, clean, wait on her and she dont appreciate it at all she expects and he does. this is a 47 yr old man who his dad past at 19. i feel mommy instilled the wrong things in his head. no they dont sleep together. however she told me he took her husbands place?? sick. she cant let go to let him lead his own life. is he fooled my the mind control of his mom? bickering all the time. they both are controlling.thank

Answer 1

If he doesn't want to talk to her and fix the problem your best bet is to leave, not much of a future with him, he gives her too much control.

Answer 2

Ewwwwww, I hate momma's boys! It's like, "Who gives you awesome head? Me or your mom?" Ugh.... I hope I already know the answer to that. I think leaving and cutting all communication is a good idea.