My mother has allways put us (6 children) last on her list. With male company as a BIG nr 1. She has married 3 times, and has children with all of them. She also had a countless amount of boyfriends. She had multiple suicide attempts, in which she involved us, in a heartbreaking way. Her first was when I was about 7, and i saw how they carried her then unconcious body into the ambulance. And at her last, she had attempted to cut her wrists. I had to call an ambulance. And she's done a lot more awfull things that i would rather not get into. But all of it was defastatingly painfull. To see my brother and sisters broken like that because of her actions and words. Soooo many times... And her own pain, to see that, and she kept punishing us for her pain. We all had to partially grow up some place else. Still she involved us in her actions. And the times she didn't; she ignored us completely. Do I keep fighting this fight? I'm so lost in it. But she's still my mother.
2006-12-03 18:11:53 · 9 answers · asked by StormyWeather 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you cant change your mother. only she can change herself and that will not happen till shes ready. the only fight i would fight is for your brothers and sisters. if your mother listens to you without a fight, all you can do is try to get her some help and to talk to someone if she will..its like that saying.. accept the things you can not change and change the things you can. sometimes we have to move on and do the best you can with your life. i know in my life i had to set myself free from the termoil and moved on and later we were able to work it out. if shes not ready to listen or learn from her mistakes all you can do is love her and you go ahead and be happy and make a life for yourself and dont repeat the cycle. my prayers are with you.
2006-12-03 18:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stormy Wea: I don't know how old you are, but you are taking on way to much responsibility. Your mother needs professional help. You need to first look out for yourself and your siblings. I would contact Child Protective Services immediately. Living in an intolerable situations will hurt you and the others You can become prey for some sick 2 legged animal. The physically and mentally scars will last for many years.
Don't hate your mother, for she is sick and needing love and security. Having children with different men is an indicator of reaching for some stability in her life.
There a very few good men out there who are willing to take on a dysfunctional family. I will pray for you and your family.
2006-12-03 18:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say the ages of your younger siblings. If they are so young you probably feel responsible for them to make sure they are ok. If they can take care of themselves then you should get away from her and don't look back. She is on the road to destruction and is so selfish and so far gone that she can't do anything for anyone.
2006-12-03 18:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mother could use some serious counseling.
Have you tried to get her into counseling or even family counseling? I think you would all benefit from this. She really needs to get to the root of what's causing her all these problems.
2006-12-03 18:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should love your mother through this. She needs you guys/gals right now. Don't be like her, don't put her last on the list. God Bless You! I'll be praying for you & your family.
2006-12-03 18:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by SimplyYoung 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope it all works out, I can't give any advice, cozz I don't know, but still i hope you will find a way to work it out with yourself, not with her.
You have a life 2, so go for that....and everything will be oké(?)
Good luck.
2006-12-03 22:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY FEEL FOR YOU MY RELATIONSHIP WAS TOTALLY DIFFERENT I WAS NOT WANTED THATS HOW I FELT SOMETHING I LEARN IN MY LIFE WAS TO NOT EXCEPT SOMEONE HURTING ME OR YOU BOTHER AND SISTER IS TO STOP YOUR FIGHT AND GET THE HELP FOR YOUR FAMILY YOURSELF IT WILL HURT THEM IN THE LONG RUN IF YOU DON'T STOP IT. IF YOU R OF AGE YOU FIGHT FOR YOUR SISTER AND BOTHER THEY NEED LOVE AND ATTENTION AND SO DO YOU . IF YOU WANT TO SEND IM TO CHAT MORE ITS RPDIVERSITYTT@SBCGLOBAL.NET
2006-12-03 18:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by birdie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart hun yes she is still your mother,
2006-12-03 18:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not your mother if she's destroying you
2006-12-03 18:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kyubi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋