i had sex with my ex bf. it was the moment...he kissed me then one thing led to another, before i knew it he was inside me. we never had sex while we were together. but i dont know how this came to happen. its not that i regret it, its just i dont know how to make sense of all this.
the way he kissed me reminded me of the old days together.then slowly he took off my shirt and started touching me...everywhere.
i know i should have stopped him and said no. but i didnt. instead i took off his shirt and unzippered his pants.
it was wonderful. but was it wrong?
2006-12-03 18:10:33 · 22 answers · asked by loony p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it wasn't wrong- you both are still hot for eachother- that's a good thing if no other g/bfriends are involved in this relationship. He wouldn't have tried if he didn't want to, you wouldn't have let him if you didnt want to, and the only awkward part is to come now when you see him again, how will the two of you react toward eachother- dont do the - oh that was a mistake thing if you dont really mean it- or you may lose the best thing you ever had--- good luck to you-- I hope it works out for the both of you.
2006-12-03 18:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am from a very conservative country and having sex while not yet marriage is a bad bad thing. but in this modern world, we couldn't deny that we are abiding doing such. my answer really is, it already happened so we can't do anything anymore. the only question now is that do you regret of what happened? and you answered no, so that means, it was ok. i am not tolerating you doing such act (are you planning to do a repeat performance? i hope not...aymore). and please do remember that "you and him" are finished so cut it out. maybe he just tried you givin it to him especially if you are already involve with someone. doin it with him while you are involve with someone eventhough he's your ex, means that you are flirty and can't be trusted to be around with guys. im sorry but i know someone done the same with his ex so i'm hoping you'll learn from his experience.
2006-12-03 18:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by KiSSiX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Free Love and no strings attached. If youre emotionally OK with the high probabillity that he got free sex from you and still only wants to be just your X so he can go have sex w/ someone else tomorrow night, then no it's not wrong.
2006-12-03 18:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by bluestar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are decieving yourself. If you wanted to have sex then why didn't you when you were going out? You are hurting yourself by allowing this to happen, because now you feel out of character and you have no boyfriend now. He is surely confused to. You basically just said to him, I won't have sex with you when we are boyfriend girlfriend, but when we are ex's I will. Do you still want to be with him? You need to let him know if so, otherwise he is guilting you into wanting him back.
2006-12-03 18:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by reelgoldengirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's wrong if you have feelings and he doesn't. I think that you should evaluate why you broke up. You don't want to suffer through the same things again. Personally, I believe that if he hasn't bought or if he returned the product, then he can't keep sampling. If you think you can handle just being sex buddies, don't worry about it.
2006-12-03 18:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Free 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends on why you did it. If you love him and there is a future then maybe not but I grew up in a family that was strict on the no sex before marriage thing. If he is acting wierd now then he is a user and you fell for it. Sorry
2006-12-03 18:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there's no such thing as "wrong" in a case like this. it happened, it's in the past, don't think about what you should or shouldn't have done. now just figure out where to go from here. don't dwell in the past, you'll just be unhappy.
2006-12-03 18:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by shrimpylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont think that it was than it wasnt. it can only be 'wrong' to the people involved. as long as you dont have a new man and he doesnt have a new woman than you're okay just be careful not to become a booty call
2006-12-03 18:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off, I thought I was reading a soft porn. lol
Anyway, no I don't think it's wrong if you both aren't married. Who knows, you guys may be connected again. Don't worry about it.
2006-12-03 18:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong if you are currently having any other boyfriend.
Otherwise, okay for once. Not to make it regular.
2006-12-03 18:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Subhasis G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋