this guy is like 20 yrs older than i am... he is older, way more experienced and financially stable. im not going to lie i am attracted to all of those qualities. we flirt alll of the time... but i just recently found out that he is married!!! he never told me and still doesn't know that i know..i was told that he is unhappy in his marriage... it still doesn't make it ok for me to want him... i know, i know... but i am in lust with him, his personality and he knows it. i feel that i cant break something that is already broken(as in his marriage) so should i go for it or leave him alone?
2006-12-03 18:03:58 · 34 answers · asked by trendsetta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don't know for a fact that his marriage is broken.
be his friend, talk to him about his life...
if you help him get back on track, you will be friends for life.
have a nice day.
2006-12-03 18:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by sharrron 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would not go for him until he has filed for divorce...
1) You are the only one who is going to get really hurt in this...
2) If he did not tell you he was married... that mean he does not intent to leave his wife... if he was in love with you...he would have told you about his unhappy marriage.
3) He will cheat on his wife and will use you for a good time in bed. Once you get too close...he will drop you.
4) If he get a divorce...he will lose half or more of everything he owns and won't be so financially stable anymore.
5) If it is only lust and going in bed with him is all you want...go for it...it is his funeral...but if you want more...forget it!
6) No matter which way you look at this...when a man can get a woman 20 years younger than him in his bed...he wins...even if he lose everything after that. There is not a man in this world who would say no to a woman 20 years younger. If you look at it from this point of view...you are the temptress and he is the victim as he cannot resist you. That make you the bad person.
2006-12-03 18:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, take a FREEZING cold shower girl! Do you really want to be 40 married to a guy who is 60 someday - come on - you'll still be in your youth - caring for the elderly! Married men flirt all the time - you're probably not the only little "spark" he's got going on. You'd better be careful- those midlife crisis men - you know - there's 2 sides to every story and if he's having marital problems - that's a red flag in itself that you're not going to get anything stable and long term out of him - that's for sure. But hey but the choice is up to you - go straight and stay on the road or make a sharp left and go careening over the side of a mountain and into the rocks - your choice. Men think their wives have run out of steam in the sex department - but in all reality - it's them being boring, bland and running low on fuel. You might get one or two good nights out of him - but he's going to eventually treat you like the old used wash rag like he probably does his wife right now!
2006-12-03 18:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adulterous! Sorry for the word if I offend you. But you know that as long as he's continually marrid to that woman you are nothing but a mistress to him.Well men are liars! they say something against their wives but I say you they loved them dearly. Maybe his wife isn't just capable anymore or can't cater his lustful needs anymore so he sought for someone else who could! He might be having a wonderful moment with you but you are nothing to him but a Vagina to deposit his lust! No more no less! And that is also a manifestation that you are an easy girl. my ADVICE... leave him! HE maybe very good in sex but younger more handsome men are still hotter you know...they are far better and fresh! Why go for an old gorilla whose about to dying years while there is a young horse in the barn? you're still young go flirt someone our age not those who was passed by time.
2006-12-03 18:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his spouse asap. do not enable your feeling receives in contact, you're a sufferer right here. he's seducing you and it isn't perfect. do no longer make this huge mistake of falling for it. in case you do those are the consequences: a million) you could properly be partly responsible for breaking apart a wedding ceremony. 2) you could lose your interest. 3) you'll ruin your attractiveness. 4) His spouse will be truly damage, imagine your father doing this on your mom. 5) it is going to come decrease back to you, no doubt The flirting and teasing needs to provide up. Be agency, no longer coy with him, respect your self and locate your human being guy. purely because you're coming up thoughts it does no longer advise you act on them, that's selfish.
2016-11-30 02:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it...if you don't, someone else will. And when he finally gets rid of the ball and chain around his neck, you might be in line for the crown; but if you don't try, he'll just chalk you up to being another teaser and a joke...what, you think that if you pass this guy up, you'll never be hurt by anyone else in your life??? Might as well pick your own poison...lol
2006-12-03 18:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it still isn't appropriate for a woman to go for married man. you might like him as you say, but that is not an excuse for you to have any relationship with the man. he might not be happy in his marriage, but do you think his love for you wont fade like his current married life now? think about it. what will you feel if you are his wife and some girl is flirting with him? don't be selfish! think about the family you are willing to sacrifice just for your own sake! that's not right!
2006-12-03 18:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by caige 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. If his marriage is bad, let him get himself out of it before he moves on to other women. It'll only make trouble if you move in now, it's not worth it. It has nothing to do with him, but it hurts his family (especially his children if he has them), and even a sour marriage is still a marriage.
Give it time, out of respect if nothing else.
2006-12-03 18:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by nparris88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE RUN THE OTHER WAY!!!! This is a very bad situation.
First of all, he lied to you! He never told you he was married.
You need to leave this disastrous situation. He will NOT leave his wife for you, TRUST me, that and he's a lyer. You deserve much better than this honey. I know its going to hurt to walk away, but its what you need to do. You need to find someone who will love and appreciate you and ONLY you.
Take care.
2006-12-03 18:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by maisie24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about why he didn't tell you. maybe he didn't want you to know cause he liked you. and if he's not happy with his marriage then there might be a chance that he might leave his wife anyways. so just wait and see what happens. but don't wait too long, but don't break them up either. good luck! =D
2006-12-03 18:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST ME: You will feel terrible about yourself if somethings happens. The excitement is fun now but you are playing with fire. Give them a chance to work out their marriage, besides, if he cheats on his wife to be with you then you will never trust him and it will cause problems between ya'll.
2006-12-03 18:06:48 · answer #11 · answered by RockabillyBanana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋