Its not that I don't like it or don't want it. Its that I'm so confused & my emotions are like a rollercoaster, even thoughts about it make me anxious.
2006-12-03 18:02:18 · 12 answers · asked by h_bear1808 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OOOHhh I can relate to how you're feeling. I had been in a commited relationship for 6 years and we were engaged. Things started to fall apart and I broke it off. It was a year and a half before I could even date anyone.
It's COMPLETLEY NORMAL to be unsure of your feelings right now. Being intimate with someone involves having your head and heart in the right place as well as your body. Women are very connected to the emotional aspect of being intimate, where as for men it's mainly a physical aspect. If you are unsure then you need to listen to those feelings, accept them and know that it's okay to feel that way.
There's no guide book that says how long it should take for you to feel okay with intimacy again.. so your best guide is your own head. No one knows "you" like you do. When your head and heart are all in sync you will know and you won't have to think or worry about initmacy it will just happen.
I eventually met a great guy that I trusted complelety and we took our time getting to know each other: now married 4 years with 2 kids.
TRUST YOURSELF.. and good luck.
2006-12-03 18:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kris17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're having unsure emotions then you really shouldn't be dating anyone let alone intimate. I understand... I went through two years of dateless wonder and it wasn't flowers and candy canes. I still longed to be someone, but I didn't just want anyone... I want the someone and until I was completely ready for it I stayed clear of the dating scene.
You are not a freak. Get out your emotions and thoughts about... by talking to your best friend, writing in a journal, writing poetry, or just talk stuff out loud to yourself. I call it "Exploring you..." You need to figure out why you feel the way you do and ask yourself tough questions about your sexuality and what you have done in past relationships.
This is the time you should be figuring all that crap out so when you do meet the right person you are not a complete mess. And when in doubt... God listens so don't be afraid to ask for help. Good luck and God Bless you!!
2006-12-03 18:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by amanda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the respond is which you at the instant are not incorrect for being drained or not getting previous his infidelity. authentic, he might have replaced and for his sake and the worlds sake i'm hoping he has. yet while the wear and tear is plenty to super that has been achieved to your heart, then you definately could enable him pass out of your existence and pass on. whether, if has asked to your forgiveness you do could provide it to him totally and thoroughly. in case you do not, then this could reason you emotional and religious problems sooner or later and could do the comparable to him. And in simple terms because of the fact because of the fact which you have forgiven him would not advise you may stay with him. yet i could try this, i would not make an instantaneous determination, in case you do love him. tell him which you incredibly choose area to think of issues via for some month and probable 2. If incredibly loves you he will do as you ask and with a bit of luck not pass back to his previous techniques. Then sparkling your techniques of him and concentration on your self, then in case you finally end up lacking him, and are not any further harm via what he has achieved, then there may well be some thing there, yet once you finally end up not even thinking approximately him anymore or soreness comes up once you do after awhile, then pass on.
2016-12-13 19:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club. It's a scary thing when you're kind of away from it for awhile and the thought of having a relationship with someone new can make you a little nervous. Try not to focus just on that. Eventually it will come naturally with the right person.
2006-12-03 18:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are scared to get hurt- a very normal and logical way to be, it would be abnormal for you not to be leery and scared. You may feel that this person may not just be the right one for you- and that is ok, but you may also be feeling this way because you really like him and you think he IS the one and you dont want to ruin any future with this guy. Take it slow and let your heart lead you, not your mind. Best of luck to you...............
2006-12-03 18:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Yes it is normal. For me I have trust issues. I dont care what any one says, no Psyc in the world can tell you how you should feel about these kinds of issues. My Family thinks I should see a DR. I think they need to.
2006-12-03 18:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by my baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's normal. It's called a dry spell. Don't worry when you find the right guy, everything will fall in to place. Good luck.
2006-12-03 18:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a fella that will be sesitive and understand of your situation. Dont let anyone press you into an uncomfortable situation. eventually you will find the right time. good luck.
2006-12-03 18:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i assuem it is. i have been intimate with someone in 5 yrs and it does scare me but my advice is that u move slowly and dont jump right in.
2006-12-03 18:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by blueygirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had sex in 10 yrs. I get more and more anxious everyday.
2006-12-03 18:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by SimplyYoung 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋