My friend heard so many rumors about her husband while he was deployed and this has lead her to feel really insecure.
2006-12-03 17:53:52 · 18 answers · asked by jennybethsunshine 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It's a lie, no one ever cheats on the deployments.
You can't really find out unless he admits it. Tell her to let it go, people talk and they shouldn't.
2006-12-03 18:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by higg1966 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I am a military wife, and my husband is in iraq right now. I love him very much, and I married him because I trust him with everything I have. If you truly love your husband, then u should clear any worries of him cheating on you while he is deployed because it's not fair to him. Rumors will go around because there are guys and women that are jealous of soldiers who actually have something worth coming home to. It is up to her to ignore the feeling of being insecure, no one else can make that go away. This is something that all military wives will worry about, is wondering if their spouse it being true or not. In my case, I know my husband would never do anything to hurt me, much less cheat on me with some other girl. You just have to stay strong and have faith in your man, and remember that deployments don't last forever.
2006-12-04 17:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't.
I have been cheated on by two wives while I was deployed. I found out by putting two and two together. The second wife admitted it to me the very same night I had to leave for a deployment!
Needless to say we aren't married anymore!
Makes me regret being faithful, but that's after the fact.
Can't tell, so if she is suspicious enough it will create more problems. Either trust him, find proof or go crazy trying. The last two will almost always begin the end of the relationship anyways.
If she loves him enough, she will eventually know the truth.
2006-12-03 18:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by konstipashen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really amazes me that in so many cases some one will be trying to put the make on some woman and her husband is deployed or many other circumstances , so the S.O.B. will try to convince the woman her husband or boy friend is cheating on them hoping it will open the door for his sorry a... I have seen this so many times, when it truth most men are true to their wives and girlfriends when in service s that is their dream is to get back to them and the one thing that keeps many of them alive, also especially if the guy is married and he has a allotment for his wife he don't have enough money to go to town in most cases after he buys his necessities , and never enough to entertain a girl, so you might want to ask what reason our informant has in saying these things, or if some one wanted your husband same thing.
2006-12-03 19:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by jim ex marine offi, 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tough question. Cheating does happen on deployments. A friend of mine told me when her husband deployed the first time that a wife she was friends with called her up crying because her husband had met a girl on myspace and was not coming home on his R&R he was going to see her. Now that is pretty obvious he had something going on, now another man had cheated on his wife with a female soldier he met over there and it was the same situation. She didn't know how to prove it it was just rumors. She directly asked him about it and he denied it, now once she had the other soldiers name she came back to her husband and asked who is SPC. So and So he admitted it then. Now that my husband is over there the thought is in the back of my mind but I try not to let it get to me. Is your friend comfortable with any of the others in her husbands unit? Does she trust them enough to tell her the truth? Maybe she could ask one of them.
2006-12-03 18:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
rumors are rumors. if they love each other then they can overcome these rumors. If they are from reliable sources then she shouldnt have to look any further. Maybe she could talk further with the people spreading the rumors??? It doesnt hurt to ask questions. I dont understand why men would want to hurt their wives. They are at home waiting on them while they are fighting at war and taking care of the children and house and the whole time they are scared to death that they will never see their husband again. Then come to find out they suspect they cheat on them. How wrong would that be?? I feel sorry for her. Tell her to ask questions before asking her husband. He prolly wont be honest with her anyway. Good Luck.
2006-12-03 17:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by texaslady78 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They always say once the cats away the mice will play. I know I was in the Military fir 10 yrs and had 2 wives cheat on me while away on deployments so it is two way street. If he won't have sex with ya, chace he has a STD look for unusal meds Like penicillin or doxcyline which help take care of certain std's
2006-12-03 18:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by back2skewl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends on (1) how strongly she feels about the validity of the rumors and (2) what she plans on doing if she finds out that the answer is "yes".
if the rumors are coming from his fellow army buddies, then that's pretty serious. she might want to just come out and ask him.
if she plans on leaving him if the answer is "yes" then i'd say she should think about asking him. if she's not going to leave him, then there's really no point in her knowing. in that case she should just come to terms with the fact that he might have cheated.
2006-12-03 17:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by shrimpylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am nervous about the same thing cause my husband is going to camp anaconda next march and is luckily not going to leave the post however it is an airforce post and he is going to be on guard for it...which means he will have lots of time to get to know the other female soldiers around there...i truly dont trust the women...they know that men are desperate idiots when it comes to sex and if they want it bad enough and find an attractive guy married or not they will go after him till they get him.
2006-12-03 18:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tuff one! Rumors are just that rumors, she will need to just sit down and ask him she should be able to tell if he did or didn't by his conversation! Guilt always shows itself one way or another
2006-12-03 18:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by lil mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda doubt it. aint much going on in the sandbox. unless you count maxim, cleenex and 30 min's in a porta john cheating. Quite honestly there is not alot of time to worry avout getting laid. the main focus is on incomming and getting your job done. Atleast thats how it was for us MP's.
2006-12-03 18:36:17 · answer #11 · answered by horgurce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋